Where's CariadAgain? 🤔

petra

Caleo
A lot of miss understanding could stop if members used the quote facilities.

I agree. However my contretemps with the mod was years ago so I could not retrieve it and the inverted commas , anecdote style, was the most I could do.

Caleo
A lot of miss understanding could stop if members used the quote facilities.

BTW, nobody missed me Re BOTTgate
But I’m ok, honestly. 🥴

i assume that if a member has been banned - their PM facility is also removed
It’s removed immediately.
That’s why I boringly repeat my self.
If you are friends with a member exchange email address's
It’s happened to 3 friends of mine on here. If we hadn’t exchanged emails there was no way of knowing.

ferry23

Caleo

Some time ago I had a post deleted because someone had influenced a moderator who judged it to be "antisemitic."

I blame myself for failing to make sufficiently clear my point of view. However the moderator should not have been so high-handed and should have given me ----or anyone-----an opportunity to elucidate.

I'm intrigued as to how someone can influence a mod?
And why you felt the need to put antisemitic in inverted commas?

You're absolutely right in that perhaps you didn't make yourself sufficiently clear. Because generally, when people make discriminatory remarks and they are pulled up about them, "not making myself sufficiently clear" is a frequently used "explanation".

Always wise to err on the side of caution and check your wording when you're dealing with a subject that could so easily make you look like a racist or similar.

Inverted commas are used for quotations. I quoted the moderator.

Perhaps the bot was able to influence the moderator 😉🤭

petra

Allira
Nobody apologised to me 😥 when I was suspended for being rude to a BOT.
Not even when the BOT was cast off to wherever BOTS are sent.
I’ll get over it though 😂

That's because you hurt the BOT's feelings and it complained to a moderator who sympathised with the BOT.

Sounds a total bell-end petra and anyone can claim ‘mental health’ on a forum.🤬it doesn’t give carte blanche to be totally foul so you need six different names.

Ferry23
Believe me, it can happen.
A longtime member received a lifetime ban for causing a member to suffer mental health problems
The accuser was the ex member I mentioned who had had 6 user names.
Of course the mods were totally unaware of all these name changes so therefore were unaware of the goading from the accuser to the accused.

Allira
Nobody apologised to me 😥 when I was suspended for being rude to a BOT.
Not even when the BOT was cast off to wherever BOTS are sent.
I’ll get over it though 😂

Trust me Caleo I did not find it funny and I fail to see the joke. Maybe you have no respect fir others feelings

Caleo, I don’t see how a moderator could be influenced to judge a post as anti semitic. There is a clear legal definition of anti semitism.

Caleo

Some time ago I had a post deleted because someone had influenced a moderator who judged it to be "antisemitic."

I blame myself for failing to make sufficiently clear my point of view. However the moderator should not have been so high-handed and should have given me ----or anyone-----an opportunity to elucidate.

I'm intrigued as to how someone can influence a mod?
And why you felt the need to put antisemitic in inverted commas?

You're absolutely right in that perhaps you didn't make yourself sufficiently clear. Because generally, when people make discriminatory remarks and they are pulled up about them, "not making myself sufficiently clear" is a frequently used "explanation".

Always wise to err on the side of caution and check your wording when you're dealing with a subject that could so easily make you look like a racist or similar.

Allira

^I was told that because I had my hair done a week before covid "I would look good in my coffin.^

😲 that is unforgivable.

It's a little depressing but hardly abusive surely? I too will be in a coffin some day.

The poster seems not to have made her point very well if that is all her post contained, As it stands it seems to me to be an poor attempt at a joke.

Allira

rafichagran

If I had made a mistake or mixed you up with someone else Allira I would have apologised, that is her bad manners. As you said though it was still nasty.
There are alot of lovely posters though and I enjoy there posts and stories. I like hearing about the interesting lives of some.

It was quite shocking but then I realised how ludicrous it was 😀

It is indeed ludicrous to insult persons online, unless they are figures in the public eye. Private persons such as posters to Gransnet are knowable only from our posts and it is absurd to abuse actual persons.

However I think the more important reason for personally abusive posts to be disallowed is that if such posts proliferated Gransnet would cease to interest normal posters and would loose revenue.

Some time ago I had a post deleted because someone had influenced a moderator who judged it to be "antisemitic."

I blame myself for failing to make sufficiently clear my point of view. However the moderator should not have been so high-handed and should have given me ----or anyone-----an opportunity to elucidate.

Gransnet was a lot more normal than mumsnet during covid

rafichagran

If I had made a mistake or mixed you up with someone else Allira I would have apologised, that is her bad manners. As you said though it was still nasty.
There are alot of lovely posters though and I enjoy there posts and stories. I like hearing about the interesting lives of some.

It was quite shocking but then I realised how ludicrous it was 😀

If I had made a mistake or mixed you up with someone else Allira I would have apologised, that is her bad manners. As you said though it was still nasty.
There are alot of lovely posters though and I enjoy there posts and stories. I like hearing about the interesting lives of some.

Maremia

It was a nasty thing to say. Is that Poster still on GN?

I have not seen this poster comment for a long time. I can't say she is not posting because for various reasons posters name change.

I take your point Doodledog but that comment stuck with me. I still become irrationally angry about it.

Don't carry it with you rafichagran, it was her remark and she owns it not you.

A poster made a shocking and unfounded attack on me and I did report her post. It was deleted but she is still on here.
I can laugh about it now because she must have got totally mixed up (it can happen to anyone) but she never apologised and even if I wasn't the intended victim, it would have been nasty anyway.

It was a nasty thing to say. Is that Poster still on GN?

Not irrational at all. I would have been annoyed too - it was a horrible thing to say, and I'm not minimising it.

"I don't remember the comment to rafichagran, but a lot of people were a bit bonkers during Covid - a combination of fear and loneliness probably. Maybe it was that which prompted the comment?"

I take your point Doodledog but that comment stuck with me. I still become irrationally angry about it.

I knew someone change character completely during covid. A normally strong woman who became very frightened. So while I see the point above the comment still makes me angry.

I meant between the two sites kittylester, I started on MN I think in 2004? then moved over here.