What does Gransnet mean to you?

I am so grateful for all the generous information given by Gransnetters - legal, medical, gardening, cooking. They have helped me a lot. All my children live in other countries and I see them rarely, so it's great to hear of others in the same situation.

You don’t need to wait for the email. You can save the link if you know how, or just type www.gransnet.com into Google for your browser. Then you can join in with us at any time of day or night😀.

Sorry, that was to Goldieoldie15

Always interested in diverse opinons as long as people can agree to disagree. Apart from the occasional barbed comment I think this is a lovely friendly and supportive site. I have learned quite a lot from real peoples experiences and dip in and out when I can.

Caleo

I do hope that some Gran who is more able than I to explain will do so.

Caleo
What device are you using? iPad, laptop, phone.

I returned to Gransnet a little while ago. I had been a member years ago. In between times, a few years involved a house move, change of laptop and tablet and, more worryingly, a loss of my password book!
This time round I decided I'd avoid any political discussion.

Part of my leaving involved what seemed like a ganging-up against me, I stuck to my guns with informed opinion, but one very cruel, hurtful and personal comment aimed at me was so far from the truth it had me in tears. I left, rather than continue fighting my corner. Who needs online grief ?

I was delighted on return to see so many of the old, lovely posters were still here. I love that we can share our goings-on, find warmth, humour, consolation and solace here as well as get a glimpse into each other's lives. I like too that we can share different viewpoints and learn from others.

There are some posters I think I'd get in really well with, in "real life" as they come across so well. Gransnet is is like a ( mostly) friendly cafe where chatting to people you don't know is a pleasure and you leave, glad of the interaction. A bit like bus stops chats with strangers - the day is brightened, a concern is aired or a laugh is shared.

What really impresses me about GN is the genuine warmth extended to posters who are going through a really tough time. The replies are invariably sympathetic, often offering advice and urging the original poster to keep in touch.
Bearing in mind that the vast majority of us on here are complete strangers to each other, it’s all very heartwarming.

Differing opinions and viewpoints. Interesting lives.

As I said earlier due to being housebound with my DH whom I care for, I did think that joining this site would give me a chance to chat and get involved with discussions but it hasn’t panned out that way. Perhaps I am just too boring or not saying the right things, but most of the time I get sidelined whilst a discussion goes on around me, with members replying to a member who says the same as me a few beats after I have said it, whereas I get totally ignored.
Have tried to get involved but it just doesn’t seem to be happening.
Oh well. Am happy that the rest of you are enjoying being on here.
Will leave for a bit and perhaps just spectate.
Best wishes all 💐💐

Fallingstar I think most of us have experienced that. There seem to be a slight hierarchy of posters that everyone listens to and answers. The rest are left behind. Don’t let it worry you. As they say’I see you ‘. ❤️

Sometimes people cross post, and just don't see something that was posted a couple of minutes before. That often happens to me - I often get distracted half way through a post, then by the time I come back to it others have spoken and I haven't seen their posts. If I notice I do apologise and say I'm not ignoring the person I've repeated, as I know it's annoying to feel ignored.

Some people just don't read anything but the first post on a thread, though, and see nothing wrong with that. I often wonder if they do the same in real life, repeating things that others have said five minutes earlier.

Don't give up on GN - I'm sure you aren't being ignored. I have noticed your posts, so I'm sure others have too .

JamesandJon33

Fallingstar I think most of us have experienced that. There seem to be a slight hierarchy of posters that everyone listens to and answers. The rest are left behind. Don’t let it worry you. As they say’I see you ‘. ❤️

I agree. Please don’t go Fallingstaf. I have sometimes experienced the same as you, I suspect many have.
Your opinions are valid and may be helpful to someone who is too reticent/ shy to reply.
Growing a thick skin to those who are just rude is difficult, but the rudeness reflect on them not you.

Thanks your kind replies mean a lot 🌹

petra

Caleo

I do hope that some Gran who is more able than I to explain will do so.

Caleo
What device are you using? iPad, laptop, phone.

I believe my device is called a personal computer. It's a big black box that sits on a desk beside its monitor screen. The keyboard sits in front of the monitor and the mouse to the right of the keyboard.

Fallingstar ..... but most of the time I get sidelined whilst a discussion goes on around me, with members replying to a member who says the same as me a few beats after I have said it, whereas I get totally ignored.

18:52JamesandJon33
Fallingstar I think most of us have experienced that. There seem to be a slight hierarchy of posters that everyone listens to and answers. The rest are left behind. Don’t let it worry you. As they say’I see you ‘. ❤️

I've already posted that I do enjoy GN but I also agree with Fallingstar's comments. & James andJon33 have summed it up very well.
When commenting about anything on here, I think it's rude to not read the full thread first to avoid making duplicate comments or getting the jist of the thread wrong.
I feel exactly like you Fallingstar. Only yesterday I made a commonsense suggestion for it to be ignored and then later suggested by others. I'm treated as being of no consequence in my own home so it doesn't help to also feel that way on here when ignored. I don't expect or want to be acknowledged or replied to whenever I post. Just saying that actions on here can/could cause reactions.

ClicketyClick

Fallingstar ..... but most of the time I get sidelined whilst a discussion goes on around me, with members replying to a member who says the same as me a few beats after I have said it, whereas I get totally ignored.

18:52JamesandJon33
Fallingstar I think most of us have experienced that. There seem to be a slight hierarchy of posters that everyone listens to and answers. The rest are left behind. Don’t let it worry you. As they say’I see you ‘. ❤️

I've already posted that I do enjoy GN but I also agree with Fallingstar's comments. & James andJon33 have summed it up very well.
When commenting about anything on here, I think it's rude to not read the full thread first to avoid making duplicate comments or getting the jist of the thread wrong.
I feel exactly like you Fallingstar. Only yesterday I made a commonsense suggestion for it to be ignored and then later suggested by others. I'm treated as being of no consequence in my own home so it doesn't help to also feel that way on here when ignored. I don't expect or want to be acknowledged or replied to whenever I post. Just saying that actions on here can/could cause reactions.

Thanks Clickety Click, is good to know I am not just being precious about this.
As someone relatively new to the site is pretty hard to fit in, I get the impression that some members have been on the site for many years so I imagine friendships have been forged or enemies have been made and they will gravitate towards communicating with each other.
Would be nice though if they considered that other people would like to be included and feel a bit fed up when they are ignored.

I'd say that posts being apparently ignored or that are rapidly superseded by other posts is nothing new or should be taken personally. It happens to everyone. Persevere. Keep posting.

It has happened to all of us, don't take it to heart. Sometimes it's just like talking aloud, with no response, but it doesn't bother me, it's better than someone jumping down your throat 🙄. It's lovely if you do get a friendly interaction, but I don't really mind talking to myself! 😂🤣.

Sometimes I post something, and nobody responds.

Then I feel like Billy No Mates!

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I do read all the posts but may not reply to many of them. Because I don't acknowledge posts doesn't mean I haven't found them interesting and worth reading. I think it's been said before we need a like button.

I agree with Adeline that people are not ignoring someone but they are responding to the latest comment which could have missed the similar one as they were busy typing theirs. Not everyone is a speedy typist. I’m definitely of the slow stumbling variety.

Calendargirl

Sometimes I post something, and nobody responds.

Then I feel like Billy No Mates!

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Surely, this is the norm. You post your views on something and people will read them and only comment if you say something, that catches their mind, and for most of us people just read our posts and mentally agree/disagree, but feel no need to respond.

It is irritating when you think you have made a telling and pertinent point, but I cannot see why anyone would take that as a personal slight, i is just part of the ups and downs of life.

I agree M0nica and it’s a good idea to remind ourselves it’s a public forum that’s all and not worry about it.I don’t expect anyone to reply to my comments unless they particularly want to.
Tbh I don’t have much free time so tend to dip in and out.The info on here about products and problems is very good.

Calendargirl

Sometimes I post something, and nobody responds.

Then I feel like Billy No Mates!

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I don't feel like Billy No Mates but it is exasperating to research the answer to a question, post the information then two or three other people ask the same question a few posts further on.
😫

And get a reply which is galling.