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Astitchintime Wed 06-May-26 09:56:38

Been to the dentist this morning. Booked in and the receptionist said “are you exempt.” I replied ‘no’. I will add that I do pay for treatment but couldn’t remember if I paid before or after treatment.
She tells me to take a seat……..then another patient walks in, books in and receptionist says “do you pay for treatment” He says yes and pays.
That got me thinking about my conversation with her so I went back to the receptionist and told her that she had actually asked me if I was exempt and I’d replied ‘no’ to which she snapped ‘well, YOU should have know what I meant”!!
I couldn’t believe how rude she was……I bet she is a delight to live with!
And I did pay for my treatment, just in case you’re wondering!

TheWeirdoAgain60 Thu 07-May-26 09:01:03

Some years back, I went into a cafe after driving through an area I'd never been to before.

Literally as soon as I opened the door, and before I'd even walked over the threshold, the snotty cow behind the counter shouted ''What drinks and food do you want?''

I replied that I don't know, as I wasn't even through the door yet and didn't have a chance to look at the menu!

She rolled her eyes and sighed dramatically.

I was desperate for the loo, so I shot in there, then when I came out, she literally basically threw the menu at me and barked ''What do you want?'' before I'd even had a chance to plonk my eyes on it!

I snapped ''What I REALLY want is to drown you in the nearest river for being a psychotic motormouth egomaniac witch'' then I threw the menu back at her, it crashed to the floor, and I walked out, never to return to that cafe or the area again!

I absolutely HATED that awful woman!

harrigran Thu 07-May-26 09:32:47

The receptionist at my dentist is brusque and unsmiling.
Yesterday I had to see the hygienist and she treated me like a naughty 5 year old. She more or less told me I didn't know how to clean my teeth, strange how I have managed to keep most of them for 79 years.

knspol Thu 07-May-26 13:50:22

Dentist receptionists are all really nice at my dental surgery, wish I could say the same for the doctor's surgery. If one receptionist in particular answers the phone I now put the phone down and try again later, do not want to put up with the abrasive manner or downright rudeness.

Nurseundercover Thu 07-May-26 14:08:59

Unfortunately there are a lot of people devoid of self awareness, something I used to encourage student nurses to develop. I often find with some receptionists you are lucky to get eye contact. Where has the empathy, dignity and respect gone?

Bazza Thu 07-May-26 14:14:06

Our old doctor’s surgery had the worse, most rude and unhelpful receptionists imaginable, the only difference between them and a Rottweiler was lipstick. Yes you’ve probably heard it before but for them it really was true. Our present surgery has three lovely ladies for which I’m very grateful. Why do people choose to have a job dealing with the public if they hate other people?

Mojack26 Thu 07-May-26 14:53:34

Sounds as if she would be better suited as a GP receptionist! They seem to all have training in how to be unpleasant!!🤣

WithNobsOnIt Thu 07-May-26 14:56:59

When she asked you if you were exempt You should have asked her from what.? Catching COVID, not paying vat, breathing,sexually transmitted diseases?

It should be on your dental records if you are exempt from paying dental charges Which she should have access to on
the computer in front her.

I have been with the same Dentist for over 30 years and had the same receptionist all of that time.
She is now in her early fifties and is a fountain of wisdom, knowledge and a delight

. And treats every patient the same. Also had the same excellent Dentist for years. So l am lucky l know.

As for brain dead young receptionists. That's what living in a digital world does to people

Where manners and courtesy are fast becoming an endangered species.

As for over the top false eyelashes they look almost cartoonist in their length and thickness. What are they made from?

I think they are designed like that to catch the eyes of would be boyfriends and men. If you pardon the pun. Flutter, flutter.

I was a great fan of false eyelashes when l was younger. But they were much slimmer and not as lengthy and made from a finer plastic that looked more like hair.

Anybody remember Eyelure and Miners?

7/6 d or 37 and a half pence a pair from Boots. Bargain! The dearer ones went up to nearly a pound in price.

Have a Good Day
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GrannaKaye Thu 07-May-26 15:01:37

Interesting that it seems to be a generational thing and not limited to the UK. I see it often here in Alberta, Canada: lack of empathy, rudeness and manners by service staff in most situations: servers and receptionists and store clerks. I think that these workers have not been trained and/or certainly are not properly supervised. They simply don't have any incentive to be other than they are. The incompetence is rife...

glasses Thu 07-May-26 15:24:22

My husband was told off by the receptionist for not using the self check-in. He was very embarrassed.
At our dentist our favourite lady knows us by name and has a conversation, what a difference!

MissAdventure Thu 07-May-26 15:30:52

I'm always getting told off.
I have started to push back a bit though.

There's nothing worse than stewing at home, thinking what you should have said.

gillyjp Thu 07-May-26 15:39:39

I had a dental appointment last week and the receptionist asked 'are you on any benefits' which I think is a much better question and no room for confusion. My answer was 'No' so I paid. Worth every penny too as the Dentist rebuilt my tooth that I'd chipped badly on a biscuit.

DollyRocker Thu 07-May-26 15:40:34

My daughter worked for M&S, she said the customer service training is exemplary with daily training updates.

paulow Thu 07-May-26 15:40:53

I wonder if this current generation actually understand what they have asked, If someone asked was I exempt and I wasn't, the correct answer will always be no, just as, conversely, answering yes just confirms that you are exempt. They don't understand double negatives either.

4allweknow Thu 07-May-26 15:45:33

How can you pay for treatment before you see the dentist? Could be going for a simple filling that turns out to be needing more work eg cusp breaks off turns into needing a larger filling or a crown. Simple exam but then needs an xray. Never heard of anyone paying beforehand.

M0nica Thu 07-May-26 16:08:08

Mojack26

Sounds as if she would be better suited as a GP receptionist! They seem to all have training in how to be unpleasant!!🤣

Our GP's receptionists are a joy and a delight. Alaways smiling always helpful.

Rocketstop2 Thu 07-May-26 16:11:55

I remember when we used to pay AFTER visiting the dentist, now you have to pay before you go in, and anything extra is added on when you come out.
I find receptionists at the doctors ruder than at the dentist and some times thr pharmacy staff are quite ignorant too !

Aldom Thu 07-May-26 16:31:30

I have to say that the ladies on reception at my GP surgery are cheerful, friendly, kind and helpful.
When I have been sitting in the waiting area I have, on occasion, seen them being considerate and going above and beyond to help patients who seemed distressed. Recently, I watched and listened as they interacted with a man who clearly had learning disabilities. It was a joy to see. The pharmacy is next door and the same spirit pervades in there. Nothing is too much trouble. smile

Stansgran Thu 07-May-26 16:54:12

Been to the dentist today in Durham and they are lovely . Two flights of stairs up but one of the other patients seeing my stick asked if I needed help. So even the patients are pleasant even though they might be waiting for something horrid to happen.

Tizliz Thu 07-May-26 17:52:31

All our doctors’ receptionists are very good but one is male and is the nicest.

Maggiemaybe Thu 07-May-26 18:14:11

We used to have a battleaxe on reception at our GP surgery - if she answered the phone you knew you were in for it! She was an older woman, as it happens. Since she left (phew!), all our GP and dental surgery reception staff have been young, kind and very polite and helpful.

On the other hand, I came across a new young till assistant at our local convenience store this weekend. She dealt with the queue in front of me in silence, not even making eye contact or thanking anyone. I had to smile when the man in front of me said cheerfully “You really couldn’t care less, love, could you?”. “I’m tired”, she said, and carried on regardless. I got my scratchcard dropped into the pool of water left by his bunch of flowers, so the intervention didn’t work. smile

Perhaps she was just having a bad day.

JPB123 Thu 07-May-26 21:28:06

I shopped as usual in Sainsbury’s the other day.In the bread aisle the man was stacking loaves from the trays.I reached up and got a loaf off the trays and the shelf stacker chap said don’t take without asking,that’s stealing’, I told him I had put the loaf in my trolley and would be paying at the check out,so it wasn’t stealing.He replied that I should ask,not just take.I was appalled.

Thisismyname1953 Thu 07-May-26 21:50:18

I have been extremely scared of the dentist since an ordeal years ago .
When the dog accidentally head butted me she knocked my front tooth out. Luckily my DIL is a dental nurse and was able to get me in with her dentist . I was shaking so much when I went in but the dentist was so lovely he put me at my ease and sorted my tooth out . It is only a small practice with him being a sole trader. He retired a couple of years ago and sold his practice to a young dentist who is just as lovely .
His staff of two dental nurses alternate the surgery and reception between them . He has now taken on another dentist and needed another nurse do he took my DGD on as a trainee and I’m glad to say she has passed her exam and is now a qualified dental nurse . All the staff a lovely and polite but I could be a little bit biased 😂

123kitty Thu 07-May-26 23:04:40

I’m also confused as to how you can pay before you have received any treatment. Sometimes my bill is £70 another time it can be much more. The receptionists are all polite and friendly.

WheezyAnna Fri 08-May-26 08:07:02

I’ll never forget going to my previous Dentist about twenty-five years ago when he told me that I would have to have quite a lot of work in the next few years. Having always been quite fearful of the Dentist following umpteen fillings without anaesthetic as a child I was caught off guard and started crying. The Dentist looked at me as if this had never happened before and ushered me out into reception who then ushered me out onto the pavement.
Needless to say, I never went back to that surgery.

FranP Fri 08-May-26 09:16:49

Her choice of question was possibly ageist though. If the other patient was clearly under 65, and perhaps you are not?

She asked a short form of a question because SHE knows the different complexities of payment, assuming that others do. So rude of her