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Just saying!

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Desdemona Fri 26-Jun-26 20:35:21

This is a phrase that winds me up and I see a lot on groups I am on. I find it passive aggressive.

Found this article below and wondered what you think.

psychcentral.com/health/defending-against-im-just-saying#definition

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Fallingstar Fri 26-Jun-26 21:06:32

I don’t like it either neither do I like “Don’t take this the wrong way but…”or “You may not like what I’m going to say but…..” as opening sentences in a conversation. Because what follow is almost certainly something insulting/insensitive.

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Maggiemaybe Fri 26-Jun-26 21:55:52

Or “with all due respect”, usually followed by something disrespectful. But the worst one for me is “end of” after someone else’s opinion. Just like “just saying”, it implies that nobody could possibly disagree with what’s being said.

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Deedaa Fri 26-Jun-26 22:09:25

"I'm not being funny but........"

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MarieElla Fri 26-Jun-26 22:59:34

No offence but...

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Grannybags Fri 26-Jun-26 23:09:19

I’m not racist but…

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J52 Fri 26-Jun-26 23:15:24

MarieElla

No offence but...

I agree with you, the mere fact that someone says ‘no offence’ tells me that they know they are being offensive.

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Bellanonna Fri 26-Jun-26 23:24:35

Don’t get me wrong …

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winterwhite Fri 26-Jun-26 23:26:44

Agree with all of these and 'just saying' is particularly pointless and annoying.

MaggieMaybe, isn't the obnoxious 'end of' said at the end of the speaker's rebuttal of someone else's statement. Rather like 'And no returns' from our schooldays.

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Wyllow3 Fri 26-Jun-26 23:34:09

Not "I'm so sorry that I hurt you"... (heartfelt)

But "I'm sorry if you were upset that:....(I'm not really sorry at all)

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