It’s just another day, no faith, but as kitty says, it’s an opportunity to catch up with DDs and DGSs who have work and school all week.
I’m ‘funny’ in that I made a conscious decision not to shop on weekends, because I feel for those who have no other option. I’ll go to a garden centre, the beach or a child friendly farm/attraction, but I’ve 5 other days to buy whatever I need or want.
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Sunday still feels different. Does anyone else notice that?
(12 Posts)Sundays are often different here although we are not churchgoers and are retired.
Weekends are different because that is when we mostly see children and grandchildren as they are tied to conventional school and office hours - so to some extent we are too.
Now that I’ve retired Sundays feel different because I don’t get the dreaded ‘Sunday feeling’ because I had to face work on Monday
I don't think if takes faith to build a community NoraHayes but community does matter and if you access yours through faith that sounds positive.
Yes my Christian faith is important to me but I don't push it on to other people. We have friends from different religions and some of no faith at all. Our friendships are based on our love of music, sharing meals and wine together, the books we like to read, the films we like to watch. So really faith does not come into the reasons why we are friends which are rich and diverse. No way would I discuss my faith when sharing a meal with non-believers it would not be necessary or appropriate.
Sundays are still slightly different for us, often in summer when we have a family bbq, otherwise quiet. Monday the to do lists kick in.
I get comfort from our village community centred in our local pub, many a time have regulars pulled together to help those in distress. Including my son when he went missing as an 8 year old (he’s now 35)!
That’s where we find most of our tradesmen, people to help if a car needs a push or a lift somewhere, money raised for friends with unexpected events or our local food bank.
A few funeral processions started off from there too, my community Nora
To ginny
You make a fair point and I completely agree that decency has nothing to do with whether someone believes or not , I'd never suggest otherwise. What I find interesting is how much of what we consider community infrastructure was quietly built around faith without people necessarily realising it. The Tuesday morning group. The ones who show up. Whether you believe or not, those structures did something. Your story about the vicar made me laugh by the way I think she meant it as a compliment even if it came out slightly wrong.
To toetoe
A continuous happy — that's such a beautiful way to put it. And I think that's exactly what people who haven't experienced it don't quite understand. It's not about the big moments. It's the steady undercurrent of it. Thank you for sharing that you've actually helped me understand something I was trying to put into words."
I hope you answered her with “I am” ginny 😀
I can’t say I agree with you. A faith has little to do with helping and caring for others or being judgemental about those who do or don’t believe. It is just about trying to be a decent human being.
A while back a very ‘religious’ church going lady was very suprised when she learned that I did not know the new local vicar as I was not a believer and didn’t attend church . “Oh,” she said “ but you seem such a nice person”. I found it rather amusing.
Even though I live alone Sunday feels a different kind of day . Often a nice roast lunch and glass of wine . I have my church and my faith and the people my church family who I really believe would help me if I asked . I was chatting to a friend who is struggling and as we chatted I said my happiness is found in my faith , which surprised me as I took a moment to actually find the answer . After thinking about this I do feel it's true , I love my family of course and they bring me happiness and I'm blessed they are safe and well . I don't see them often and that's fine , it was when I was answering a question from my friend when I said " my faith makes me happy " and it isn't momentarily it's a continuous happy . I hadn't thought about this before . I can't go any deeper but I know I really feel this , even though I only go to church on a Sunday .
I went to church this morning.
Not because anyone expected me to. Not out of obligation. Because Sunday has always had a particular quality that I don't get anywhere else. A slower pace. A different kind of quiet. The feeling that this day operates by its own rules.
My dad is the same. Has been his whole life. Sunday morning has a shape to it that nothing else has managed to replace.
I've been thinking lately about what happens to that shape when it isn't passed on.
Not in a judgmental way. People believe what they believe and that's entirely their own business. But there's something that I notice a quiet thing that doesn't get talked about much in the older adults I know who have faith. A specific kind of loneliness that comes from having something absolutely central to how you understand your life, and watching the people around you simply not share it.
Not hostility. Not argument. Just — absence.
The church my dad attends has been the same community for forty years. The people who showed up when his wife died. The Tuesday morning group. The ones who still call. That's not nothing. That's actually everything.
I wonder sometimes if the generation that built those communities around faith gets enough credit for what they understood about how people need each other.
Does Sunday still feel different to you? And if you have faith, is it something you talk about freely with your family, or something you mostly carry quietly?
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