Who would you tell?

Never had an inheritance of any level, neither did DH. A big win would be distributed between AD/GC in accordance with advice from financial adviser. I wouldn't tell anyone other than AC. Would be good to be able replace household goods, have decorating done without having to save up.

At this moment in time, I would tell my eldest DD as she's been an adult for many years. I would not tell my two younger children as they are only just finished being teenagers. I don't think they're mature enough to deal with such news.

That's it.

I would tell only very close family - dh, dds, and my siblings. I’d need to, to explain where their cash gift was coming from!

Telling anyone else would probably result in begging letters, which would be very stressful to deal with.

My family

I’d contact my solicitor and set it up in a family trust for my self and two adult kids

As soon as the results are out it is a competition over who won the most in our family, I am the queen of the £25 win. I wouldn’t tell friends but I would treat them to a day out if I won a decent amount. If it was the million I would trow in fish n chips lol.

I opened a premium bond account late last year. So far, I have received 4 prizes, two of which are £125. At the beginning of each month, I buy £25 worth of premium bonds.

If I win big, I will tell my DH and DD.

The National Lottery has started a new game called Powerball where you can win £300 million paid over 30 years like the ones in America.

I do not mind winning a small life changing amount say 100k or even a million but £300 million, no thank you.

I'd only tell my immediate family and maybe one other person. I remember when my mum inherited some money and suddenly all these people crawled our of the woodwork with sob stories...

Not sure!

I might not tell DH as he would already spend, give to HIS friends and tell me what I could or could not do with it.
I won a wheel barrow full of booze and he went around handing to his friends. I took a pension pot out and he bought a new car, so I would debate about telling him how much.

Love it FranP 😂

Having had a friend staying the weekend who had just won, and wasn't going to tell me, I would probably tell close friends, and close family. Said friend shared with 22 others. The were in a syndicat and each had won 11,000 as runner ups in the National Lottery, (1 number short of 1st prize). I was happy for her as she used it to buy a flat. I was sad that she hadn't felt initially that she could share the joy with me though, despite staying with me the whole weekend...! It was strange as I never asked questions normally, but did directly ask her, "Have you ever won anything big?" She then came clean. My daughter was also on a French exchange trip to a family who had just won a huge lottery prize.... That was a wierd coincidence. Despite the language barrier, they managed to convey to her that they had won. The photos of the man receiving a huge Euro Millions cheque made her wonder. It was reported in the UK on radio4 , as he was the first winner of the first massive jackpot. When she returned to UK I remembered his name, so she finally realised that it was true!

Abitbarmy

I would tell the children and my DH as we share our winnings over a certain amount, but maybe not tell the kids how much…we won 10k last year and haven’t told them about that!

We also won £10k recently and gave £250 each to our 4 grandchildren. The rest won’t take long to disappear because of the price of everything these days - dentist bill, huge car repair, garden fencing, some plumbing work etc.
If I won a million I’d get pleasure of giving a lot away and seeing the joy it would bring rather than leaving it in a will.

I would not tell anyone, but there would be signs 😂

I'd keep quiet until I'd really thought it out properly.
I'm frankly horrified by the greed of some people who are users .

Apparently if you win the Big One on the Ernies, and someone comes to the house to inform you, they insist on speaking to you alone to tell you - in case you wouldn’t want any spouse or anyone else to know!

What struck me was that 25% of people would hide a win of a million pounds from their partners/spouses. That seems like a lot to me. How do you hide a million from your nearest and dearest, and still get any joy from it?

Mumsnet , and gransnet, often features posts from desperate women in a miserable home/ marriage they can't escape due to lack of money they control.

A tax free million is enough to walk out and start a new life without an abusive partner's knowledge or permission.

Witzend

Apparently if you win the Big One on the Ernies, and someone comes to the house to inform you, they insist on speaking to you alone to tell you - in case you wouldn’t want any spouse or anyone else to know!

I did wonder that!

If it was perhaps five figures or more I’d tell nobody. However, as I’ve held bonds since December 1956 and had two wins in that time, £50 and £250, it’s not likely to happen!

Witzend

Apparently if you win the Big One on the Ernies, and someone comes to the house to inform you, they insist on speaking to you alone to tell you - in case you wouldn’t want any spouse or anyone else to know!

I read that some time ago, but don't know how it works.

Imagine you and your partner/spouse are sitting watching TV and there's a knock on the door. One of you goes to answer and it's Agent Wossname wanting to speak to your spouse. She is a glamorous blonde. You call him and she asks to speak to him in private. Are you not going to ask who she is, and what she wanted? Would your spouse say nothing if a strange man comes to speak to you in private?

We are very relaxed about on another's friends and activities, but I'm sure both of us would be at least curious. Yet apparently 25% of people don't want their spouses to find out they've won. It doesn't add up, to me.

We both agree not to tell anyone else, even family, but it would depend on how much it was. We would probably tell our children we had had a bit of a win but not tell them how much, so we can do something like buy them a new car each. We could always have another 'win' next year if we want to do something else.

Our friends don't need to know abut our finances any more than we need to know theirs.

butterandjam

*What struck me was that 25% of people would hide a win of a million pounds from their partners/spouses. That seems like a lot to me. How do you hide a million from your nearest and dearest, and still get any joy from it?*

Mumsnet , and gransnet, often features posts from desperate women in a miserable home/ marriage they can't escape due to lack of money they control.

A tax free million is enough to walk out and start a new life without an abusive partner's knowledge or permission.

Yes, and naturally I'd thought of that, but 25% of people? That seems very high.

Having read the thread, I see things I hadn't thought of, such as a partner who would squander the money. That makes sense. I haven't done the sums, but at first glance, far more than 75% of people on the thread have said they would tell their spouse/partner, and most would tell adult children, which is more in keeping with my own thoughts, but not with those of the survey.

Obviously I am not the benchmark , but I found the survey interesting.

Same AmberGran I won £1000 last year, told MrJ, just told children I’d had ‘a win’.