Returning , or not, OP’s

Yes, it is annoying. Sometimes questions are asked, to clarify the situation, and no response is given, which means some advice can be worthless.

Yes even of it's just one post saying thank you for all the replies.

It's even better if the OP comes back to say what she/he has decided or done. Or if the advice has helped. That will help others in the same position.

I see one GN post quite often and I do roll my eyes as she never came back after receiving loads of really good advice a year ago from many GNs.

Agree with all of the above.

Thanks for the reminder! I've posted a reply to a thread I started in Style & Beauty.

I think some of these threads are the result of after dark panics when someone has been told or discovered something that is worrying them sick and they are surfing the web searching the web and asking all and sundry for help and assistance. Probably posting on 5 or 10 different sites

Come the morning they feel more optimistic and calm and simply cannot remember where they posted or how much they said.

The threads often have names at the top that we have not seen before and never see again

Definitely. I gave very specific info to a poster re a travel query and then silence. It makes you wonder if it's worth it sometimes and further instills the thought that newer posters are ignored. I will certainly ignore that particular poster if she asks for advice on anything I happen to have knowledge on.

I am relatively new but do try to respond to posters. I hope that newbies don’t get ignored because of a handful of posters who never get back. I have found it hard enough to be taken notice of as it is but this would just penalise anyone new who would then just give up.

fancythat

Agree with all of the above.

Me too

It’s nice if people respond but I guess we are all busy and when things happen in real life that would take precedence. We have no idea what people are dealing with really.

nanna8

It’s nice if people respond but I guess we are all busy and when things happen in real life that would take precedence. We have no idea what people are dealing with really.

Yes to this.

Sometimes when the poster thanks all, amd updates us, people still say
.. "Pack a bag, now!"
"Tell your mother in law blah blah..."
"Gently tell your fifty two year old son..."

So, I suppose some people lose the will to live to carry on with a thread they started, and issue they've since dealt with?

Sometimes I wonder if they are real/genuine when there's no response. But as Fallingstar says you'd feel a bit mean if you didn't respond to someone asking for support and opinions. It does feel odd though.

Fallingstar

I am relatively new but do try to respond to posters. I hope that newbies don’t get ignored because of a handful of posters who never get back. I have found it hard enough to be taken notice of as it is but this would just penalise anyone new who would then just give up.

Nobody is "ignoring newbies".

In effect, we are all sitting on the number 9 bus. Nobody cares why you got on the bus or where you're going. There's a lot of chatter going on. Some passengers never speak, some never shut up gabbling, many don't listen. The bus stops and starts because its a bus. People often just get off the bus because they've got somewhere else to be. Or they'd got on the wrong bus in the first place.

As MissA says, the other side of this though is when people don't read the op properly or the replies that the original poster subsequently puts on.

butterandjam I maybe should have indicated that I was referring to Clicketyclick who was talking about ignoring newbies, I did not float the idea first.

kittylester

As MissA says, the other side of this though is when people don't read the op properly or the replies that the original poster subsequently puts on.

I also think this is a problem. Was an OP using the word ‘distraught’ on a thread not long ago and despite changing the word after several members piled on about it some members still insisted upon critisizing her for this, having not taken the time to see that she had changed this.
Not sure if that poster is still with us but wouldn’t be surprised if she wasn’t.

Some of them are trolls, particularly the complex family situation ones.

Butterandjam I love your analogy. I am often on the bus, sometimes just listening, occasionally make a comment, often get off after not going far at all. It can be quite some time before I get on again.

Unless the OP states she/he is new to the site, I can't think anyone would be ignored for being a newbie. How on earth would that be known? How many 100s or 1000s of members are there many of whom don't post their thoughts or start a thread but are still members and reading as and when they want to. Or have time.

I think some members like lighting the touch paper and then standing back to see what happens. Or some have a genuine question or problem but dont like the answers so don't come back.

Like a PP above if I recognise a name as a time waster which I do now, I scroll past.

I think the MODS start some of them to generate some traffic. 😂

Ooh I like a conspiracy theory.

I think I know what you mean Fallingstar, like when an OP acknowledges an error in their post and apologises or whatever, yet the pile on continues down the line either deliberately or because posters haven't read the thread.

The only excuse could be that it takes a few minutes to type a longish post and by then other people or the OP have posted their comments.

Just through being nosy, I wonder how certain people got on with their problem, usually.
Some people, though, stay in my mind and I wonder how they are, and what they decided to do.

Apart from that, I can't say it irks me if people don't report back.