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Mattsmum2 Sat 05-Sept-26 21:30:13

My son’s been on holiday. While he was away we were looking after his three cats. Going in each day to check on them. Yesterday one of the cats appeared to be very poorly. I checked with my son and said I would take him to the vets. They do not have pet insurance, and no savings. Their finances are very much live for the moment and it appears they have things for essentials but nothing more. My son’s husband is self employed. Sadly the cat was very poorly and had to be put to sleep. I have discussed with my son about the vet bill which is likely to be around £2500, said that I would pay and we would sort something out. It’s the ‘something’ that im not sure what to do. Thinking ahead he will inherit things anyway. I still want to make sure they get some sort of pet insurance and think about the consequences of owning an animal. I usually give him £1,000 a year on his birthday, do you think it’s reasonable to stop this for two years? I can’t think of anything else other than to write it off or ask for a small monthly repayment. I want to show compassion but also want to get him to acknowledge the responsibility. Thanks for your help.

butterandjam Tue 08-Sept-26 17:45:44

Iam64

Yes true butterandjam. I understand if you describe your dog as a mongrel the company might not enquire further. Doodle dogs like Cockerpoos, cavapoos, labradoodles might be described as cross breeds but I imagine the breed background would be queried. My big labradoodle was working lab x standard poodle - she taught me a great deal about speed, agility and high prey urge. Her insurance worth every penny.

You don’t always get the best of both breeds, sensitive bright lively spaniel x bright, clever, sensitive mini poodle and you’ve a pup who often isn’t a first time dog 🐶

Our was a retired racing greyhound. No hiding the pedigree; racers are all ID'd by a registered tattoo on the inside of one ear, which leads online to their long breeding pedigree ( and racing history with wins, times and prizes). The pet insurers used his record for his valuation and a policy quotation higher than our house and car combined. (We did not insure him). Minimal vet costs until he developed a fast and painful osteosarcoma at age 10 ( high breed-specific risk) and was PTS.

He's the only pure breed dog we've ever had; all the other rescue dogs have been collie crosses. Crossed with a spaniel, a dalmation, a doberman, a german shepherd, a saluki and a staffie. The crosses all lived long active lives well into their mid teens, few vet expenses beyond vaccinations, neutering , worming and occasional stitching of small tears and repairs.

MayBee70 Tue 08-Sept-26 17:46:45

butterandjam

Iam64

In answer to the suggestion I’m making up the story of the dog with conjunctivitis. The vet gave me a prescription. The pharmacist said I don’t need that. She sold me the standard Optrex for infected eye drops. I have bought it for myself in the past.

Dog and human eye structures and sensitivities are significantly different; (for instance, your eyes don't have a third eyelid; dogs' do) Some common ingredients in OTC eye drops that are safe for humans, are toxic to dogs.

Your pharmacist may not know that.

I only give my dog medication that has, at one time, been prescribed by a vet eg piriton for allergies or chloramphenicol for eye infections so I know it’s dog safe and I can purchase it from a chemist in future.

MollyNew Tue 08-Sept-26 17:56:06

Mattsmum2

Thank you everyone for your words kind or otherwise. The final bill was around £1500, he’s already paid me £500, taken out pet insurance and asked for me to not give his birthday money, his choice. He said to me that he felt very stupid and embarrassed, that he thought pet insurance was ridiculously expensive, but it isn’t. Not compared to costs at vets. A huge lesson learned.

I'm glad you were all able to sort this out and your son has taken responsibility. As the old saying goes, "every day's a school day" and your son and his partner have learned another life lesson.

Iam64 Wed 09-Sept-26 08:44:13

The vet who recommended the treatment I bought, in fact provided a prescription told me it’s the same as the one they’re to sell at a cost of £60