Large social gatherings

Make a bee line for the people you do know, or if you see someone on their own go and chat to them.

Some of the events I have dreaded the most, I have ended up having a ball

I'd look for others who seem to be on their own and try to chat to them. It can be difficult when you know very few - best of luck!

I expect that's what I'll have to do. DH suggested that I have a drink first but I've gone off alcohol. He then decided I'd better not drink in case I become a mean, argumentative drunk. As if!

Just get yourself a drink and stand around. Talk to someone if they initiate conversation. Otherwise just think about what you’re going to do when it’s over. In my old age I can’t be bothered with small talk.

I know what you mean. Luckily it's in a hotel so I can just see myself scuttling off to our room for a nice cup of tea and a read. However, it's important to DH so I'll try to make the effort to chat to others.

I don’t envy you in any way! I cannot bear these big events, grit your teeth, smile, have something nice to drink (it doesn’t need to be alcoholic) and waft round looking for a kind face or someone else on their own! It’ll soon be over

I don’t like big gatherings for this reason, but whenever I have gone to one I tend to circle the herd looking for stragglers like myself and rescue them from a similar fate by striking up a conversation.
It tends to work and can be quite enjoyable.