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Father's Day Sunday — nobody makes cards for this type of dad

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NoraHayes Sat 20-Jun-26 11:05:59

Father's Day cards show men in armchairs being handed cups of tea.
Comfortable. Settled. Quietly stepping back.
I don't know many dads like that.
The ones I know are still the first person everyone calls when something needs fixing. Still the one with the opinion nobody asked for but turned out to be completely right. Still absolutely certain their gravy recipe is the only acceptable one.
My dad is 71. He has never waited to be handed anything in his life.
I think the card companies have got the image slightly wrong.
Anyone else's dad like this? Or if you are the dad ,still doing everything your way and not particularly interested in slowing down? [

kittylester Sat 20-Jun-26 11:16:27

I agree. Though my DH gets funny/bantering type cards.

We are often first port of call, mainly because we have the time to help. DH has his specialisms though - a voice of calm, practical help and football banter.

Sago Sat 20-Jun-26 11:29:06

My father was a nasty abusive bully, I could dance on his grave.
Certainly no card ever designed for him.

My husband is a loving, caring father to our 3 Children, we are very active and involved, no pipe and slippers yet.

Jaxjacky Sat 20-Jun-26 11:32:32

I disagree Nora there are plenty of cards very different from that rather staid image.

JamesandJon33 Sat 20-Jun-26 12:12:02

My DH’s dad was like that. Just held his empty cup up in the air if he wanted it filled. And my mother in law did.
My DH is the complete opposite and we have brought our son up to be like his dad.
He is always the first to make tea, get the washing in etc.

Primrose53 Sat 20-Jun-26 12:14:53

My Dad was great and helped me so much all my life. He hated the idea of Father’s Day and always said “don’t waste your money”.

M0nica Sat 20-Jun-26 12:17:11

Actually DS has sent DH a card where the caption is: For my DIY Dad from your Son and under a photo of a small boy holding a big spanner it says He'd learned loads of things from watching his Dad do DIY. Mainly words beginning with F and B

Completely true. DH has always enjoyed DIY, although, you wouldn't think so from his language when doing it and as for DS, he does not do DIY, he pays someone to do it for him.

It was DD who learned to do DIY at her father's side and really enjoys it, but doesn't feel the need to use words beginning with F and B