Conundrum regrding friendship.

I would only reveal such feelings to a long trusted friend. As you say most people want positive friendship but long term friends can be trusted to listen and understand your worries etc as I hope I would.

How are you *Luckygirl3"? - "Oh, not so bad. thanks."

Complete lie of course, but I can't be grinding on about my life's challenges all the time ....... I would bore myself, let alone anyone else!

I was brought up to say "fine thanks" if asked how I was (even if my leg was falling off!)

I actually think any decent friend should listen to all things, good and bad, grumpy or joyous.

It all sounds a bit “stepford” wives just to always be positive.

Part of friendship is the ability to listen to your friends have a rant, be a shoulder to cry on and then to cheer each up and on!

That’s what’s happens in my very small friendship group and then we all laugh!

It takes time to share, if you first meet someone and all they talk about is negatives it hard to want to meet up again, we all have problems and getting out for a friendly chat cup of coffee etc to forget or a time away from our probs, dosnt help if all you hear is hospital appointments ,,doctors results, these things get shared over time when you know the person well and have made a good friendship, good friendship takes time.