I’m starting this thread for anyone who is widowed.

Bit of background I’m 72 and nine months ago my husband of 73 died from cancer. I find this time of year incredibly hard as the dark evenings are triggering so many sad memories “this time last year” etc.

Thank you FGT. This thread is a good idea.
Although I've been a widow for a long time now I still have times that only other widows would understand.

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Yes FGT i agree this thread is a good idea. Thanks for starting it

A lovely idea, FGT to start this thread, thank you. My husband died very suddenly, during the night, nearly nine years ago. He is still very much part of my day. Within the family he is often mentioned in conversation, and a piece of music, a fragrance, many other small things are a reminder of earlier times, not with sorrow, but with love.

I just feel so sad especially as this time last year things had started to get so much worse for Himself (and my gut wrenching anxiety) with frequent admissions and all hope of chemo gone.

If I post on Micks or Soops I’m incredibly aware that my sorrow affects the vibe of the thread.

I had the idea therefore of a separate thread
For widows.

Not for those of us who have lost mums or siblings - although of course I do recognise and know the pain of that loss too.

I hope my new thread doesn’t in any way negate that kind of loss.

However this is different
“It takes one to know one” came to mind.

If it gains traction it’ll stay
If not it’ll fizzle xx

Thank you fgt for starting this thread.

My own experience is almost exactly the same as yours...I lost my husband to cancer in February and it was around this time last year that he started going downhill as his cancer stopped responding to treatment. I really thought I was doing ok but am now finding that I'm haunted by memories of what was happening a year ago.

Dear FGT. Thankyou.
I know how you feel about those other wonderful threads. I've often ended a thread with my sadness "bomb"😔

And yes it's 6 years this month since my beloved DH left me, left us all, never to return. 😢

I'm staying with my siblings at the moment which I find comforting as ofcourse they knew him so well and we can freely talk and laugh about the old days without any embarrassment.

I would be very interested FGT in a dedicated thread,
I am 83 & my husband died in August from cancer after a couple of horrible years. I feel he died then, not in this August .
He wasn't the man l knew & loved for over 40 years & l feel so very alone now. It was a second marriage for both of us.

FGT, this sounds like a great idea and just what ,gn is good at but please keep posting in the other threads that you mentioned.

Thanks fgt.
I’m 78 and my DH died a little over 4 years ago after 49 years together, and I miss him like I would an amputated limb. I plaster my best smile, keep busy, but very often, am ambushed by stuff. I still get my “soggy days” when 8 cry at the drop of a hat, from things that remind me to ads on tv which have nothing to do with anything. It will get better, he would have hated to see me like this!
DH loved Christmas and I don’t especially, so this time of year is hard…
Widowhood is horrible, watching one’s spouse suffering is horrible. The aftermath is hideous.

Thank you FGT my husband went on a pleasurable cycle ride and never came back. I had a policeman come to my door, air ambulance involved. The police rushed me to hospital but I was too late. No time to say goodbye

We were very happy and very stable, having met at Liverpool Catholic ramblers. Those were fantastic days, out on the mountains, parties, then children. We are all very close, five siblings and 3 AC so I have a support network

I don`t `lose it` because I know I can cope better than him and feeling like this is an act of love. So I cope and am busy and I keep smiling but there is a part of me missing now and a hole inside that will never heal