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Christmas cards

(78 Posts)
Thomas67 Sat 23-Nov-19 10:04:26

I’m not sending them but giving the money to charity. I have done a mini personal survey of Facebook chums and the majority agreed with me. I then emailed everyone I send cards to and asked-then. It was a chatty mail with news in,
I was stunned when two relatives who I see and phone were cross with me, Apparently I’m rude ,
What do you think?
I’m doing it to save waste and give to charity. It also hurts my hand to write them. That’s not the main reason though.

Happysexagenarian Fri 13-Dec-19 16:42:37

Forgot to add I recycle received cards each year by cutting them up to make next years gift tags. Wrapping paper is also ironed and recycled if possible.

Happysexagenarian Fri 13-Dec-19 16:19:38

I look forward to receiving Christmas cards each year, and I enjoy choosing and sending them, despite the exorbitant cost of postage. When sending cards to AC and GC I put each family's cards in a big envelope to reduce postage. Some of the people on our 'card list' we only commuicate with at Christmas time so I include a letter (not a round robin) and photos and look forward to hearing their news in return. It's not boastful, we have known some of them over 60 years and shared happy and sad times with them and it's just a nice way to keep in touch and let them know we still value their friendship. I'm not really a big fan of e-cards, though Jackie Lawson's are lovely, and I do buy her Advent Calendar each year for my own amusement.

BradfordLass72 Mon 09-Dec-19 19:51:04

pensions plural? I wish. grin

BradfordLass72 Mon 09-Dec-19 19:50:15

I've reluctantly decided to allow my Jacquie Lawson subs to lapse this Christmas. It really isn't very much but as prices continue to rise and my pensions doesn't I have to pare down and this is on the 'want' rather than the 'need' list.

I'm just wondering why anyone would think you rude Thomas67 for sending a chatty e-mail?

Seems to me that sending cards (or not) and giving to charity is you choice and should be respected.

Mind you, I once had a friend with 4 children and her only-at-Christmas bulk mailing to friends, was so unbelievably smug, you had to wonder what she was covering up!

Genius children winning multiple accolades across all disciplines. A rich, successful husband jetting off here and there; and herself on every committee in their village which she seemed to run single handedly, winning much praise for doing so.

I got heartily sick of her. grin

TrendyNannie6 Mon 09-Dec-19 19:35:01

I love to send and receive Xmas cards

Missfoodlove Mon 09-Dec-19 19:33:55

Sod em

Yangste1007 Mon 09-Dec-19 19:26:08

I like to send and receive cards and dislike e-cards. I always buy charity cards and after Christmas take cards to Cobalt Breast Cancer unit for recycling.

merlotgran Mon 09-Dec-19 19:22:13

I'm sending charity Christmas cards this year supporting the hospice who cared for DD at the end of her life. Top of my list are all the people who messaged us last year to say they CBA would no longer be sending cards but donating to charity instead.

She would be offering to lick the stamps grin

MawB Mon 09-Dec-19 18:35:09

Just a thought - seen on Twitter grin


Just seen your latest
Facebook post,

the one on how
you plan to vote.

I’ve crossed you out.
You’re off my list.

I’ll save that stamp.
You won’t be missed.

Resurgam123 Fri 06-Dec-19 07:38:01

My husband has lots of inlaws. Very nice but why do we keep doing this.
I have very few.

Resurgam123 Fri 06-Dec-19 07:35:25

I have not sent any cards yet or at all.
I am finding Christmas hard work .
OH is of little help.
The postage is quite expensive, not that I cannot afford it. But it seems to have got out of hand.

luluaugust Mon 25-Nov-19 13:40:30

I have no problem with people not sending a Christmas card as long as they don't expect one from me. We do enjoy reading the bits of news in the ones we do receive. We have cut right back now.

notanan2 Mon 25-Nov-19 13:36:51

The nice way to do it is to make 1:1 contact with everyone you would normally send a card to, to wish them merry christmas personally. Any number of ways.

Keep your group annoucements that you made a donation to charity hmm

notanan2 Mon 25-Nov-19 13:33:56

Frankly, Thomas, I think those who call you rude for not going on sending cards are the rude ones, not you.

It can be done rudely or nicely.

A personal email is nicer than a "to...from.." card.

A group message informing everyone theyre not getting a card or any other greeting because charity : I do not count as a greeting!

grandtanteJE65 Mon 25-Nov-19 12:34:55

I only send Christmas cards to one or two people who I know don't use a computer.

Years ago now, I started sending a e-mail Christmas letter to all our friends and family.

I frankly cannot afford to send upwards of 50 people cards when I consider what the cards and the postage cost, quite apart from the ecological consideration.

Frankly, Thomas, I think those who call you rude for not going on sending cards are the rude ones, not you.

notanan2 Mon 25-Nov-19 12:15:55

Also while no cards is fine. A generic message about your chosen charity is no greeting.

Emailing/texting/calling/messaging people to wish them (specifically) merry christmas is as lovely as a card IMO. A group text/message/email is not.

notanan2 Mon 25-Nov-19 12:12:37

I think its fine to not send christmas cards and use other media to wish people merry christmas, however I fail to see what your charity donation has to do with anyone else. Youre doing that for you not for them, unless you are asking them all what their chosen charities are and making individual donations. THAT is the bit that might give people the hump.

Do your charity. It is entirely separate IMO to how you chose to contact or greet people unless you are chosing a charity that is close to THEIR hearts, not yours!

Witzend Mon 25-Nov-19 11:03:21

I love the Jacquie Lawson ecards - especially the doggy ones - but then they are so much better than most.

I still send cards but fewer than before - have deleted various very far-flung people who we're almost certainly never going to see again.

I do still like receiving them - they form part of our Christmas decorations, blu-tacked to various vertical surfaces.

Of the people I know well who've stopped sending them, I strongly suspect that they just CBA - which fair enough, since writing them can turn into quite a chore. But I know very well in those cases that it's not a question of money, and they could very easily afford the charity donations as well.

It'd be refreshing if anyone in such circs. would simply say they CBA, instead of giving worthy reasons about the planet and charity donations. Though I know very well that for a lot of people it is about the cost, especially the postage.

Moocow Sun 24-Nov-19 13:01:42

Although postage is so expensive I prefer to send and appreciate receiving. I feel there are too many things to say we aren't going to bother with each other anymore. In these times when so many people only chat online with family, friends and stranger "friends" it's a shame sending cards is in the decline. (Another area where employm must be suffering terribly.)

Callistemon Sun 24-Nov-19 12:26:36

I buy packs of charity Christmas cards too, not from the supermarkets as packs from most of the main charities plus local charities are sold at our local library by volunteers.

Greenfinch Sun 24-Nov-19 12:25:03

envy lemongrove

lemongrove Sun 24-Nov-19 12:21:02

We do the same BlueSapphire and we also have a get together in the New Year, we all bring a plate of food and a bottle.Not far to stagger home again afterwards so it goes on for hours and we have a merry old time.

Greenfinch Sun 24-Nov-19 11:42:50

That's a lovely idea BlueSapphire.We live on a main road with a strip of rough ground between us and the house to the left. We only know our neighbours to the right and so only send one card in the immediate vicinity.sadWe do send about 75 through the post though which becomes quite expensive but is well worth it if we receive some with little personal messages on them.

BlueSapphire Sun 24-Nov-19 11:19:51

We all exchange cards in our cul-de-sac, some of us have been here over 25 years, and still do it. It reinforces our little community and is a nice way to welcome the newcomers as well.

SueDonim Sun 24-Nov-19 10:30:24

I don't think that's mean, MamaCaz, I think you're just being honest.

I don't know why people they must justify not sending cards by saying they're donating to charity. Just tell the truth, that you don't want to send (or receive) cards any more!