I have a friend who always addresses letters to me with my DH's initials, it infuriates me.
We got married in 1968 and I wanted to keep my maiden name and DH was quite happy with that, but when I investigated doing it, I had constant obstacles put in my way. I was told erroneously by bank managers and others that my passport had to be in my married name, that all legal documents would have to be in my married name and so on and so on, that in the end I gave up.
However, if ever I am a widow, I will return to my maiden name.
Our Welfare State. Is it broken?