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Not a clue

(6 Posts)
Davey1 Fri 05-Sept-25 16:03:25

Hi all.
Like I have stated I lost my partner in March plus I had to move due to health reasons.
I'm getting use to the area but I have not a clue how to go about making friends and I no that's sounding strange but I have always been seen as a loner. With my partner we would shop and spoke to people. Now the Strange question is approaching how do I make friends.
I'm dreading Christmas and and no family its going to be a tough Holliday season for me and it's scaring me a lot. Sorry for such a strange request.

teabagwoman Fri 05-Sept-25 17:25:12

Having to cope with the loss of a partner and moving house is a heck of a lot to go through. You sound as though you’re trying to make the best of things but it must be very hard and I can completely understand you dreading Christmas. Would it be an idea to book into a hotel so you’re not on your own but don’t have to socialise if you don’t want to.

When it comes to making friends I think you have to go slowly and settle for just finding a few people to exchange a friendly word with or maybe drink a coffee with , at least to start with. Look for activities in your area and try them out, maybe look at opportunities to volunteer if your health allows it. It does take longer to make friends when you’re older but they can pop up in the most surprising places.

Oreo Fri 05-Sept-25 21:20:26

It’s the 5th September……Christmas is a long time away.

crazyH Fri 05-Sept-25 21:22:52

Start with your neighbours…..

Casdon Fri 05-Sept-25 21:25:32

I’d try your local volunteer bureau. They will know what’s going on locally, and will point you in the direction of any meet ups locally, Mens Shed etc.

NotSpaghetti Sat 06-Sept-25 00:01:08

I was also going to suggest volunteering.
Some charities will be looking for Christmas help any time now.