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Dreading Christmas this year

(14 Posts)
LesLee7 Sat 19-Sept-26 17:36:39

Cossy

Oh that’s so sad.

Couple of things I’d say;

If you are able to travel and enjoy it and can afford it, then go away.

Or, if your health allows it, volunteer on Christmas Day, local churches and charities welcome people with open arms, to help out.

Try and hold on to those happy memories, it’s great you have them. Prepare yourself all your favourite foods, doesn’t have to be in any way Christmassy, get your favourite tipple and toast all your absent friends and family.

Good luck thanks

A few years ago when I lost my Mum and Sister within 6 months I contacted the Sally Army to offer my services on Christmas Day. They didn't want to know.......
Yes I'm lucky to have happy memories, not everyone does.

LesLee7 Sat 19-Sept-26 17:34:22

CarrotTop

Oh, LesLee, I'm so sorry you're facing such loneliness, especially at Christmas. If I lived nearby, I'd invite you to ours for Christmas! It's always just us - I'm in the same boat as you (no family left, no friends nearby - I do have a DH but he's a shadow of his former self due to brain damage from a stroke) so you have my sympathy. flowers

That's very kind of you. I just don't like to trouble anyone. Hoe you and your DH enjoy as best you can.

LesLee7 Sat 19-Sept-26 17:33:06

BlueBelle

As a lot of us don’t like it for a variety of reasons I think September is way too early to be reminded of it

Perhaps we ought to tell the shops that when Christmas things are in the shops on or before my birthday on 31st August. Far too commercialised now.

62Granny Sat 19-Sept-26 16:43:53

Do still attend a place of worship ? I know a lot of places / charities often offer a Christmas lunch for people on their own. But even just attending a service on that day might offer you some comfort.

greyfur16 Sat 19-Sept-26 16:40:45

BlueBelle

As a lot of us don’t like it for a variety of reasons I think September is way too early to be reminded of it

I try to "train myself" to live in the present.

Not always possible but worth a shot.

teabagwoman Sat 19-Sept-26 16:30:12

Lesee that’s an awful lot to cope with. I’m not sure what I would do in your position but I think I would make sure I had foods etc in that I would enjoy, put some decorations up, make sure I had things to do and books to read and put aside some time to spend looking at photos and remembering the happy days. Bittersweet but I think it would work for me.

Fallingstar Sat 19-Sept-26 16:03:39

So sorry, and of course I understand what you are saying. Christmas is a tough time for anyone alone who remembers those who made such a time so memorable.
This is why I am not happy with all the hype at Christmas, it makes it so hard for those who are grieving and alone or cannot afford to celebrate this occasion.
You need to keep occupied on the day and preferably the day before and after, if the weather is ok and you are mobile try going for walks, and if you are aware of any older neighbours on their own, perhaps knock on the door and see if they are ok, they might be in need of a chat or not but is worth a go. Read books, eat well, and as has been said raise a glass to absent loved ones.
I also believe there is a thread on here on Christmas Day if I’m not wrong, I have heard it mentioned, for those on their own.

Shinamae Sat 19-Sept-26 15:55:56

Christmas means nothing to me anymore
I tend to work Christmas Day…..

Cossy Sat 19-Sept-26 15:51:27

BlueBelle

As a lot of us don’t like it for a variety of reasons I think September is way too early to be reminded of it

💕💕👍👍

Cossy Sat 19-Sept-26 15:50:20

Oh that’s so sad.

Couple of things I’d say;

If you are able to travel and enjoy it and can afford it, then go away.

Or, if your health allows it, volunteer on Christmas Day, local churches and charities welcome people with open arms, to help out.

Try and hold on to those happy memories, it’s great you have them. Prepare yourself all your favourite foods, doesn’t have to be in any way Christmassy, get your favourite tipple and toast all your absent friends and family.

Good luck thanks

CarrotTop Sat 19-Sept-26 15:48:54

Oh, LesLee, I'm so sorry you're facing such loneliness, especially at Christmas. If I lived nearby, I'd invite you to ours for Christmas! It's always just us - I'm in the same boat as you (no family left, no friends nearby - I do have a DH but he's a shadow of his former self due to brain damage from a stroke) so you have my sympathy. flowers

Maremia Sat 19-Sept-26 15:48:11

If you enjoy putting up and having decorations in your home, then why not. You are worth the effort, and they help to light up a dark corner.
We did that for Dad, when Mum died, for that reason.

BlueBelle Sat 19-Sept-26 15:47:03

As a lot of us don’t like it for a variety of reasons I think September is way too early to be reminded of it

LesLee7 Sat 19-Sept-26 15:44:02

I have always loved Christmas. I was born in a village outside York and all my Dad's family lived there. We didn't get loads like children expect now but appreciated anything we got and they were happy times as we all got together. We went to Chapel and then to my Gran's for dinner.
I've now lost all my closest family and have no partner or children. On Christmas morning my closest friend used to ring before she went to her sisters and I used to ring my last Auntie at home (Dad's sister in law) as she was my last link to home and have continued to go and see her about 3 times a year, even when she went into a home . (I have lived in Cheshire for 40 years.) However, my best friend died suddenly at the end of June (the day after we'd had our usual hourly chat) and my Auntie died at the end of August the week before my birthday so have just been "home" for the funeral. I do have other friends but they have partners, husbands, children etc and wouldn't want to ring and bother them at Christmas. I have booked myself in for a Boxing Day meal a couple of times in recent years and have felt like a spare part and the food wasn't even enjoyable. Is anyone else in this position? Do you make plans? I still put up my decorations but no one sees them. I've been on my own for years now so that part doesn't bother me. It's just the memories of all those happy times come back.