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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Fri 14-Feb-14 16:51:26

How do you feel about getting older? Whether it's a pet peeve or, equally, something you like, let us know (in no more than two sentences) and you could appear in a brand new novel.

Pan Macmillan publishers want to get a snapshot of real women’s feelings about ageing. A selection of these will be included in the new book The Time of our Lives by Sunday Times Top Ten Bestseller Maeve Haran.

You might remember Maeve as the author of 90’s smash hit Having It All, a novel that sparked huge debate about whether women could work and have a family, and much more besides. As well as being a brilliant read, her new book is about four friends in their early sixties, and the new issues they face, twenty years older than the protagonists of Having it All.

Everyone who posts a comment will be entered into a draw to win one of 20 exclusive early reading copies of The Time of Their Lives, and everyone whose comments are used will be entered into a draw to win a luxury forest cabin break for four people – details HERE.

We also have an exclusive extract from the book which you can read here.

madeindevon1 Sat 15-Feb-14 18:37:31

I don't feel too bad about getting older, I am not in denial, I am 46 and a Nana of three beautiful little ones, I don't feel any different really to the way I felt twenty years ago, apart from the fact that these days I know my limitations and am more inclined to stick to them! I need reading glasses, I can't sprint up the street and I don't like driving at night - other than that I am determined to accept who and what I am.. but make sure I get plenty of sleep!

kathcake Sat 15-Feb-14 19:13:42

Despite the years that pass your mind is still young and it feels strange to look at a face that has aged

Clairemike Sat 15-Feb-14 21:39:28

I'm looking forward to getting old and doing it disgracefully !

henetha Sat 15-Feb-14 21:47:26

I thought getting old would make me wiser, but I have failed dismally.
Nevertheless, I am pleased to still be here, glorying in the complexities of life.

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tiddles12 Sat 15-Feb-14 22:17:45

I feel the same inside, but my energy and body betray me. I love my husband more than ever, and appreciate life a lot more. I have a slight fear of poor health, but we have a new freedom without the kids.

Aka Sat 15-Feb-14 22:33:37

There's a world of difference between 'getting older' and 'getting old'. I'm happy to get older, but not sure about getting old.

ItsGreatBeingAGran Sat 15-Feb-14 22:50:46

Although a gran I'm not that old (50s) - I love the fact that I'm a gran and having parenthood a second time (I didn't appreciate it as much the first time round) but sometimes I look in the mirror and have one too many lines on my face for my liking.

besottedgran Sat 15-Feb-14 23:15:54

Now that I'm older I feel able to admit that when I was juggling a full-time working career and attempting to be "perfect" wife and daughter I was very often an impatient and distracted mother.

It is with great relief that I note that my children appear to have either overlooked or forgiven my short-comings and now I am trying to be a better granny than I was a mother !

Versavisa Sun 16-Feb-14 09:18:10

It is wonderful and inspiring to have learnt so much, seen so much and experienced so much. Now I'm just trying to put it all to good use before it's too late.

MrsSB Sun 16-Feb-14 09:54:52

I'm generally ok about getting old, I think it probably beats the alternative. And I always said that age is irrelevant anyway, it's how you feel that's important, not the numbers on your birth certificate.

cheryl100 Sun 16-Feb-14 10:46:58

I feel much more experienced and deal with situations much better but dont like the wrinkles that are appearing!

JoJoB Sun 16-Feb-14 12:13:08

I feel much more relaxed about life in general, getting older definitely helps with getting a bigger perspective on things. Conversely I do feel more anxious about every little ache or pain and am convinced that a major illness is right around the corner every year!
I've had a lovely life and feel truly blessed, even by all the difficult times as they have helped me grow as a person.

26jibby Sun 16-Feb-14 14:12:55

I like getting older as it is than the alternative. Most of my family have died young so I want to get alot older than they did.

janerowena Sun 16-Feb-14 14:21:52

I feel ambivalent - I love the greater assurance and knowledge that I have gained, whilst bitterly resenting the aches and pains that prevent me from enjoying life as I would wish to.

Gorki Sun 16-Feb-14 14:29:22

I enjoy laughing at my own "senior moments" like last week when I went into town by car and by mistake came back on the bus ! I don't like being offered a seat on the bus, though, as if I were old (!)although I always take it out of politeness.

ScodieHo Sun 16-Feb-14 14:58:27

Getting older is not a problem, as long as you remain healthy.

joanf Sun 16-Feb-14 15:30:23

I like being old enough not to work anymore and to spend more time with my Grandchildren, but I hate mirrors!

PRINTMISS Sun 16-Feb-14 16:15:47

It's great, because I am fairly healthy, have spent most of my life associating with some really lovely people, and have happy memories, shared with some sad moments which everyone must have if they have lived life to the full.
No idea how much future I have, but I want to share as much of it as I can with my husband, and enjoy the company of the good friends I have, some of whom have helped make my life what it is.

merlotgran Sun 16-Feb-14 17:02:16

There is no longer the need to look at the bigger picture. Contentment can be found in a Rich Tea biscuit.

Abouttojump Sun 16-Feb-14 18:08:11

It's hard when your body's getting older, but your mind still feels 17!

RuthMarianna Sun 16-Feb-14 21:05:59

I hate getting older. I look in the mirror and feel like a stranger is looking back at me. Also I have the time and more money to do what I want to do but not the stamina to do it. But nevertheless I am generally happy with lfe.

NanKate Sun 16-Feb-14 21:29:27

You know when you see a reflection of yourself and you see your mother, well recently in a shop window I saw a reflection of my Nan !

I walk every day as fast as I can to keep myself going that little bit longer.

Getting older is not so bad, especially if I feel a bit off and I no longer have to get myself to work, I can choose to have a quiet day.

RACHELSMITH45 Sun 16-Feb-14 21:33:10

I'm not always so keen on getting older but I suppose by getting older, I've experienced many more things, made more friends, learnt new skills, made more happy memories. Age I suppose to brings new opportunities so it isn't all bad :-)

pfcpompeysarah Sun 16-Feb-14 22:01:41

I feel like my body is slowly breaking down, bit by bit. I would like to think I am wiser as I age but I am not sure others would agree!!

priorslee Sun 16-Feb-14 22:23:11

"Getting old" is just a state of mind. No point in worrying about it as that just makes it worse!