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NatashaGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 27-Apr-20 12:50:37

To celebrate the release of The Motion of the Body Through Space, the new novel by Lionel Shriver, we're giving one lucky gransnetter the chance to win a Fitbit Inspire HR and a copy of the book - together worth over £100. Five runners-up will also win a copy of the book.

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To enter simply tell us... What happens when your partner gets involved in something you consider to be yours?

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zulianilord Wed 29-Apr-20 13:17:38

I'm happy for him to take part and help but have to be careful because he may try to take over. I have to remind him that it'
s my territory and I'm in charge!

petunia Wed 29-Apr-20 13:23:00

i dont mind him being involved, but i would hate it if he could do it better than me!

dragonfly63 Wed 29-Apr-20 13:43:37

I would love my husband to,get involved in my hobbies as he doesn’t really have any. I would be very upset if he took over and starting changing things that were mine but as we have been happily married for forty years and work together as well it would be unlikely.

focused1 Wed 29-Apr-20 13:46:03

I don't mind my husband joining in but when he tries to take over something I have planned to start and do then that's when the arguements flow. He can complain that I don't help in the garden but when I do he is almost standing by the side of me . He will place different tools by the side of me , a box of bone meal will appear then the lawn mower will be out as he frog marches up and down with it whilst constantly glancing over . Midway through he will sigh and stop, prompting me to put the kettle on which gives him the ideal opportunity to inspect my work .
Whilst we sip our drinks he will plan an agenda for us both to do.I wanted some quiet me time - not a garden supervisor with a list a yard long .Out comes the deck chair , a calming glass of wine . I give up .

Ginnytonic5 Wed 29-Apr-20 14:01:14

I start something ..he comes along and gets involved ..so I let him ..it’s great, means I can go read or do my Jigsaws ! ( married 40yrs and it’s always been like that ?)

etrecia Wed 29-Apr-20 14:50:45

i don't have a partner. my partner is 4 legged friends.

helgawills Wed 29-Apr-20 15:02:55

We get extremely competitive. We play games on wii sports resort, and I used to be really good at bowling, beating him all the time, but he's getting better and I'm not, not good vibes, sad to say

SallyAnn6603 Wed 29-Apr-20 15:22:24

I usually offer to make him a cup of tea and tell him to put his feet up. He gets the hint!

NannyChristmas Wed 29-Apr-20 16:15:26

I am more than happy for my husband to be involved in something that is considered mine. We tend to do things together because we enjoy each others company so it wouldn't be a problem for me ?

grannyactivist Wed 29-Apr-20 16:22:40

We have shared interests and we have a passing interest in each other's pastimes and hobbies, but if my husband got involved in something of mine I'd likely never recover from the shock! He thinks my genealogy hobby is mind-numbingly boring. grin

charlwilde Wed 29-Apr-20 19:37:56

I mostly like it, its lovely to spend time together, it is hard to cede the reins sometimes but then their are benefits as i can sit back and enjoy cooking more and the garden! i do always feel i will be the authority though!

Lunchtimelady1 Wed 29-Apr-20 19:49:29

We do have some pastimes that the other is not interested in, but if my husband wanted to get involved in some of my activities I don't think that I would mind overly. We do plenty of things together and on the whole I think it's good for couples to have some time doing something 'as an individual'.

Akw4 Wed 29-Apr-20 20:12:08

We usually end up falling out

Tizliz Wed 29-Apr-20 20:26:41

He takes over, which can be most annoying

chadders Wed 29-Apr-20 20:54:41

My hubby and I share everything together. We have been together 33 years , hardly ever argued and always shared,

shirleyhick Wed 29-Apr-20 22:27:55

I do not have a partner.

Happiyogi Wed 29-Apr-20 22:42:10

This is making me wonder if he’s lacking a curiosity gene, as he’s never shown any inclination to meddle in anything I’m involved with!

loconnor Thu 30-Apr-20 00:17:52

I'd be totally amazed and delighted. In 35 years together I don't think it has ever happened

StephC Thu 30-Apr-20 08:30:32

Lets just say sparks could fly!!

Hopeuk Thu 30-Apr-20 10:35:12

He takes over! Over the years, I have learnt how to control his enthusiasm and guide him towards giving more of his attention to “interests” that I want to give up.

lostinfrance Thu 30-Apr-20 10:35:13

As long as he doesn't hinder my activity it's fine.

I was the gym bunny in the house. A couple of years ago DH decided that he too needed to start doing some exercise so joined the gym with me. It's done him the world of good as his job is sedentary. It is/was nice to go together although I missed sometimes just heading off on my own for some 'me' time.

pennykins Thu 30-Apr-20 10:48:28

I tend to do all of the cooking, washing etc. but my partner had to take over when I broke my leg last year and my ankle in February so he has had to step up again and prepare the meals, hang out the washing and go collect the shopping. We are both self isolating so all shopping I order and he collects if we can't get a delivery slot.

TrendyNannie6 Thu 30-Apr-20 10:49:36

We very often do things together I wouldn’t have problem with him trying out something that was mine, yea who plays together stays together

wifey2003 Thu 30-Apr-20 10:59:03

i would relish his imput , may not agree but certainly would listen

russams Thu 30-Apr-20 10:59:15

When hubby gets involved in my kitchen, cooking moves from tasty to scrumptious ;-) x