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What happens when your partner gets involved in something you consider to be yours?

After 40 plus years of working full time, and surviving illnesses, I embrace each new day with my husband who survived colon cancer 2 years ago, I treasure each day we have together, I have more patience than I had, so if he want to spend time 'in my world' I embrace the time, give positive advice, laugh at the mistakes, and praise the achievements.

depends what it is! but it's great to share

We tend to have our own areas of expertise in our house and I really don’t mind input but prefer to do my own thing. With preparing the meals for example.

Well I’d find out I’d been doing it wrong for years and years. But I was now being joined by an expert who will willingly point out all my errors - offering - whether it’s wanted or not guidance and correction and expecting in return gratitude and admiration

I don't have a partner but I did have a husband once upon a time. Looking back I don't think he ever did that. We weren't well suited so that probably explains it.

I'd love for my husband to get involved with my hobbies.

As long as it's not in my face I don't mind

It doesn't happen very often but he tends to take over and I then just step back and leave him to it and find something new!

I would enjoy it, as long as it is not when I am in the kitchen, because then he gets in my way lol.

I don't see it so much as my partner getting involved in something I consider to be mine as we don't have everything in common and each like to do a few different things, as well as stuff we do together and probably consider 'ours' - e.g. cooking. He has had dozen of 'hobbies' over the years - luckily he is quite good at most things he turns his hand too but usually spends a ton of money, buys all sorts of kit, gets totally engrossed for a while, gets bored and moves on to the next interest - rinse & repeat! I think reading is the only thing I have always done and he used to scoff a bit and moaned about moving dozens of boxes that held my 'personal library' each time I moved house...now he reads regularly and is loving it. I like to enter competitions and though I rarely win anything he appreciates the few prizes I have won as much as I do...little bits for each of us, gifts for friends, relatives and neighbours, things for the house & garden, supplies of various products, a couple of hampers over the years. We both keep hoping one day I'll land a significant sum of money or something that would make a big difference to our lives. He has even entered a few himself as he used to think nobody ever actually won but has a bit more belief now. I am more than happy to share the few interests I have and welcome his comp entries, help with crossword answers and that he supports my efforts with moral support and practical help by posting my postcard entries etc for me (I'm housebound - he is also my full-time unpaid carer - one of the many hidden carers in the world). I think it helps that we rarely fall out, are both prepared to compromise and sometimes apologise!

I wish he would get involved more. I loved us doing things together but we both also did things apart which made a heathy balance . After 40 years of marriage he Simpy doesn’t want to do anything. Sometimes having someone there can be more lonely than being on your own.

We share happily but.....chocolate. no just no. Mine.

He tends to keeps away as he has a habit of messing everything up especially in the kitchen!!!

On the whole we share, but if he got involved in something I consider to be mine I would expect him to know the boundaries and take a more supportive 'back seat' roll! I would listen to his advice too though, as back up if required.

I don't have anyone

I think it would depend on how `controlling` he got about it. As I don`t have a partner though its not something I have to consider.

He’s not usually that interested!

My hubby and I share a lot of interests and I wouldn't have it any other way! The only thing that I do without him is to join the 'ladies wot lunch' meetings, but even that he would be welcome to attend if he wished to (and I know he wouldn't!). No secrets here

I don't really let him get involved unless I need his help, lol. He tends to do everything wrong anyway so its just easier if I do it all

It never happens I don't have anything I am that prescious about, apart from my bar of 70% dark chocolate which is hidden

I agree that I was mistaken and it was my wife's all along.

We share most things but if it is something I particularly want to do by myself I usually back off and leave my DH to get on with it without me. If he then also gets bored or moves on to something else I will return to it.

I welcome my husband getting involved in making Sunday lunch he peels the veg

We do too many things separately, so to do something together would be great! :-)