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My ex partner tried to take over anything I tried to do. Everything had to be his way, I was not allowed an opinion or the space to do anything for myself. It was very debilitating and I lost all my confidence. I responded (after much soul searching) by ending our relationship. I am now learning who I am and what I can achieve alone.

My husband used to have a very pragmatic view of life often telling me, when I had issues at work, to be the person I was at home; but we're often not able to be. I miss his advice, support and love so much.

I think we are both a tad competitive so it doesn't work that well. Unfortunately neither of us is a completer-finisher so nothing tends to get completed. A friend once pretended she didn't know how to change a plug. She did this because she said, if her OH knew she could do it, he'd never change one again just leave it to her every time. So I guess it is a good idea to let them take over the tasks you dislike. Perhaps some reverse psychology is called for???

Always happy to share but with the caveat of prior agreement only!

I resign to him doing it as I don’t want an argument .

I try to persuade him to do something else because he will want to do things his way and not mine!

If and I repeat If this happens I would go in the kitchen and get my best chinese porcelain cups and then one by one try to hit him from some meters of distance! Maybe if I am lucky the first strike will be on his silly head!

I am pleased as it becomes something we can share.

I’d be shocked ?

I would be cool with it so long as we could do it together and he didn't just take over - but really, unlikely to happen as he is very absorbed in his fave football club and its history and interviews ec players for a forum he belongs to so not really likely to be having time to get too involved in my activities

For me my work and friendships are mine, it's something I have for me. If my partner had to come along and get involved with them I think I'd start feeling deflated. It's nice to do things together but it's also nice to have something for you. You need it for your own sanity. Plus you can never have those girl talks with the partner there...which us girls need at times xx

As long as he isn't better at it then me, it's great fun!

We are newly living together and lockdown has given us the chance to share activities that we might not have done before. He has enthusiastically embraced my interest in art history and we have been watching and listening to lots of programmes and online lectures together.
I am trying to garner the same enthusiasm for his allotment....it may take time.

He makes a mess haha!

It can lead to arguments as he always thinks he does things better than me. I ignore it and do it anyway!

I suggest pleasantly that he must have so much else to do he can leave the kitchen to me....

I give him an errand to do,after all I don’t invade his space

Murder, divorce , a glass of wine and then acceptance.

If it’s something we share in our leisure time then I would welcome it but since lookdown he’s been cooking and washing clothes !! Everything is fried and all my clothes have shrunk or changed colour ( he won’t wait until a full load of whites or colours are ready) all I can say is thank goodness I’m wearing all old clothes at the minute but I suppose he is trying !! TRYING being the correct word ❤️?

Interest in each others stuff usually doesnt last long.

I feel cheated of my ‘me’ time - sounds awful but true ?

I always ask WHY,answer :because I am Interested,sorted and we enjoy together.

Typically he will try to take over and instruct - just makes me storm off in a huff! Guess he's the same if I interfere with his cycling or whatever!

I would be so happy if my partner got involved in something I am passionate about because it means we'll be able to further bond and spend some quality time together.

We can spend time doing stuff together!