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It depends if I want any help or if I am happily occupying myself.

I wouldn't mind with some things, but if it became everything that would be too much I do like some 'me' time.

No longer have a partner as he died in 2014 but, as he was away for months at a time in the Merchant Navy, we didn't have any hobbies in common. He was in his workshop for hours and I was in my garden shed. We always had things to talk about though.

I would be only too pleased!

I sometimes have to bite my tongue especially when he gives me advice on cooking meals/ dishes which I have been doing since I was 11 and except for a couple of dishes he has only done since he retired. On the other hand he has taken over the hovering which is great.

I wouldn't mind I don't think. Depends what it was probably. It would mean if it was away from home I'd at least get a lift!

As a single lady this is not something I encounter, but if I did it would depend on what it was. Some things are good to share, others good to have as your own

My husband doesn’t get involved in my stuff...I do boring stuff! However, I’ve joined in with his jogging stuff and he loves that I do!

It's happened - since he retired he has taken up cooking. However I deal with it by asking him to cook in the evening if I'm out during the day and won't be back until quite late (pre lockdown), if he cuts out a recipe from the paper it's up to him to cook it, if he wants to cook but I've already sorted the meal then I say no, he can cook the next evening. It seems to work quite well on the whole, but he is dreadful at clearing up after, but to give him his due he is getting better at it! I would say he now cooks about 30% of the time, which is great.

I'm happy living in my organised muddle - he's definitely OCD tidy. Drives me potty when he 'tidies' my things away or re-does jobs I've already done!

he takes over

Young (?), free and single so no rivalry with any activities. I do what I do.

What partner ? !

It usually means he is intending to give me a subtle lesson on how to do things properly or because I am not doing something the way he would. If I am short of patience then I just wander away and leave him to it, hence rendering his mansplaining lesson pointless.

I don't have a partner, but would love to have the problem of deciding if I want to share or keep to myself any given activity

I think it depends on what I perceive to be the reason for doing it - if it's something he's genuinely interested in then that's okay. If I suspected an 'ulterior motive' I wouldn't be a happy bunny! I do like to keep some things just for myself, I don't think I could cope with anyone, not even him, in every facet of my life.

Not a problem, we do most things together. He can keep his bowls though!

I have welcomed my partner joining in with my Pilates class. I wouldn’t want him to join in my get togethers with female friends, though I love him to pop his head round the door and say hello. It depends very much on the activity the partner wishes to share!

I would love it at first but then knowing me get a bit irritated.

What's his is mine and what's mine is his.

It's me that gets bought the chocolates as presents but if he only takes the coffee or nutty ones, I don't mind

I 'd say 'love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe!'

For years I was a member of the local gym and would go three times a week. Occasionally, if DH was at home, I'd say "Why don't you come with me?". He always declined, until one morning when he surprised me by agreeing.
So,of course I had my routine; first we went on the cycling machines:
"What setting have you got it on?"
"What speed at you going at?"
"How many calories have you burned?"
This was repeated on the rowing machines and the treadmills. I'd never considered going to the gym to be a competitive sport!
Needless to say I never asked him again and we continue happily to have our own separate interests

He pretty soon gets the message.

I don’t have a partner but was married to a secretive Scorpio. There was no ways he would share anything but I tried to involve him in my projects that would interest him. Did it work?
Nah!