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He takes up gardening; what a good eye you have, darling.
He takes up the guitar; what a good ear you have, darling.
He takes up cooking; what good taste you have, darling.
He takes up all the FaceTime with the DGC; What? Nooooo!

I would always want him to be involved in what I am up to. He can be a bit bossy lol so I let him have his moment as we have very alternative interests and where it used to bother me I know he never sticks around what I am doing for long! They say opposites attract!

Usually he’ll just offer advice if asked or help if requested. To be truthful I’m actually more likely to be the one who sees him doing something and can’t help coming along and helping/interfering, which 99% of the time he takes with good grace. It’s the bossy streak in me ?‍♀️

I don’t have a partner but was married to a secretive Scorpio. There was no ways he would share anything but I tried to involve him in my projects that would interest him. Did it work?
Nah!

He pretty soon gets the message.

For years I was a member of the local gym and would go three times a week. Occasionally, if DH was at home, I'd say "Why don't you come with me?". He always declined, until one morning when he surprised me by agreeing.
So,of course I had my routine; first we went on the cycling machines:
"What setting have you got it on?"
"What speed at you going at?"
"How many calories have you burned?"
This was repeated on the rowing machines and the treadmills. I'd never considered going to the gym to be a competitive sport!
Needless to say I never asked him again and we continue happily to have our own separate interests

I 'd say 'love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe!'

It's me that gets bought the chocolates as presents but if he only takes the coffee or nutty ones, I don't mind

What's his is mine and what's mine is his.

I would love it at first but then knowing me get a bit irritated.

I have welcomed my partner joining in with my Pilates class. I wouldn’t want him to join in my get togethers with female friends, though I love him to pop his head round the door and say hello. It depends very much on the activity the partner wishes to share!

Not a problem, we do most things together. He can keep his bowls though!

I think it depends on what I perceive to be the reason for doing it - if it's something he's genuinely interested in then that's okay. If I suspected an 'ulterior motive' I wouldn't be a happy bunny! I do like to keep some things just for myself, I don't think I could cope with anyone, not even him, in every facet of my life.

I don't have a partner, but would love to have the problem of deciding if I want to share or keep to myself any given activity

It usually means he is intending to give me a subtle lesson on how to do things properly or because I am not doing something the way he would. If I am short of patience then I just wander away and leave him to it, hence rendering his mansplaining lesson pointless.

What partner ? !

Young (?), free and single so no rivalry with any activities. I do what I do.

he takes over

I'm happy living in my organised muddle - he's definitely OCD tidy. Drives me potty when he 'tidies' my things away or re-does jobs I've already done!

It's happened - since he retired he has taken up cooking. However I deal with it by asking him to cook in the evening if I'm out during the day and won't be back until quite late (pre lockdown), if he cuts out a recipe from the paper it's up to him to cook it, if he wants to cook but I've already sorted the meal then I say no, he can cook the next evening. It seems to work quite well on the whole, but he is dreadful at clearing up after, but to give him his due he is getting better at it! I would say he now cooks about 30% of the time, which is great.

My husband doesn’t get involved in my stuff...I do boring stuff! However, I’ve joined in with his jogging stuff and he loves that I do!

As a single lady this is not something I encounter, but if I did it would depend on what it was. Some things are good to share, others good to have as your own

I wouldn't mind I don't think. Depends what it was probably. It would mean if it was away from home I'd at least get a lift!

I sometimes have to bite my tongue especially when he gives me advice on cooking meals/ dishes which I have been doing since I was 11 and except for a couple of dishes he has only done since he retired. On the other hand he has taken over the hovering which is great.

I would be only too pleased!