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I would love it if my partner wanted to get involved in something which I am interested in.Sharing a hobby with a loved one can make it so much more enjoyable.

I always welcome the love of my life, and long-suffering wife Carol to be involved in anything that I do. At the end of the day, She will get better results than me anyway.

That doesn’t happen he leave things too me unfortunately

My DH took over the vacuuming because I could not pick it up now he does it I don't mind .

WE DO IT TOGETHER BUT THAT MEANS IT COSTS TWO SEASON TICKETS AT THE DEN

He wouldn't dare, as I've got older I have found my mouth and open it now

We both share the same interests, so this wouldn't be a problem.

We do most things together anyway but if it was something for just me then I still wouldn't mind.

It usually ends up with more work for me, but she means well!!

My DH got me a sewing machine for Xmas a few years ago. I hate being watched when I’m learning to do or use anything new and every time I brought it out he was there, taking over threading the bobbin, adjusting and generally making me feel useless. I’ve never used it since but I now I notice that whatever I do (except washing floors and cleaning bathrooms) he tries to take over. In the end, I gave up trying to explain what I was feeling because I then ended up feeling ungrateful....can’t win so got out of the race ?

Sharing is caring! ?

What’s hers is mine, what’s mine’s me own! ?

I think I would first ask why and if he answers with a good and valid reason, I would be ok with that. But he better have a good reason, otherwise, I would probably think he is overstepping his boundary. All things are based on respect. So, I would try to survey all the angles before I fly off the handle. The 123 rule we used for our children when they were growing up, also applies to we, as adults.

whenever i cook my partner likes to take over,it drives me crazy,i always end up leaving him to it and then he has the cheek to moan that he always cooks ,but if i ask him to clean up ,i always end up cleaning again because he just goes round the furniture and not under it ,so we make a good team haha

Anything which is mine is mine because he doesn’t want to do it. I like riding and it would have been lovely if he’d want to ride too. Got him on a horse three times. Once in Yorkshire, once in New Zealand and once in the USA. That was it. He hated it.

And anything which is his is his because I don’t want to do it. He likes fishing. I’ve tried it at least three times. Once I caught an eel and threw the rod nearly in the river. I then got on better by not putting any bait on the hook - until he found me out and accepted that it was better that I just sat and read my book.

So, basically, my partner doesn’t get involved in anything I consider to be mine because he doesn’t want to. And visa versa.

I make plans for improvements in our garden & then my husband decides he will help me & I am pleased !

No partner anymore but always happy to share interest if it is in an equitable way.

I wouldn't mind as long as het treats it and me with respect.

I like to make the bed in the morning but sometimes my boyfriend does it to help - I always have to fix it as he just throws the duvet over the bed!

It depends on what it is. Mainly I would welcome him being involved as it helps to maintain the relationship and trust. For some things, however, I would ask them not to - for example if I were making a present for a friend, I would want to do that myself but suggest that he could make one too. Just not the same one.

When I was married we both had things we did separately - mainly so we could cope with babysitting needs - as well as things we did together or as a family. My ex never interfered with 'my stuff'. Now I don't have a partner so no-one to interfere!

We always respected each others private time,mine with my girl friends and his with his pals at the local pub being armchair football managers and putting the world to rights in their own way.
My greatest pleasure is gardening and I always had the upper hand in what was planted and the only time he ever interfered was being used to carry the bags of compost for planting out the shrubs so he came in useful then.

That’s a tricky one. He doesn’t generally and I’d like to think I would enjoy it. BUT, on the rare occasions he has I feel like he is telling me he knows better/ can be better than me etc and I Just feel so annoyed that he has bashed in and is undermining me.

If he starts on the decorating, it takes me twice as long to clean up after him as it takes me to do the job properly in the first place.

it can be annoying - i like the space to have my own hobbies to enjoy