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Do you think the divorce rate will go up due to the coronavirus and being forced to spend so much time together?

(20 Posts)
Kandinsky Sat 28-Mar-20 08:45:11

The stresses of money ( for some ) having the children at home for months, not being able to go out anywhere.
I’m sure some relationships won’t survive. Sadly.

vampirequeen Sat 28-Mar-20 08:49:30

Apparently solicitors are expecting a jump in divorces when this is over.

lemongrove Sat 28-Mar-20 09:10:18

It’s quite likely isn’t it? It may affect older people more than younger ones though.
There is also the opposite effect to consider.....we are enjoying being together more than we usually are, talking more especially and having a quieter lifestyle due to the virus.
I do know a few couple our age who are likely to go crazy being together all the time.

TerriBull Sat 28-Mar-20 09:24:53

I think so, allegedly it goes up after Christmas, and that's only a couple of days to a week. Having said that we haven't felt any strains in more together time, enjoying taking long walks, although it has to be said there is an increasing sameness. We have been lucky here in the south east as far as the weather is concerned, lots of sunshine over the past week, obviously any bad weather coming down the line will affect daily walks, and have decided to clear out cupboards on those days and other domestic chores. I don't quite know what to say when our children ring for their daily up dates now I do feel like saying "same as yesterday and the day before etc." although of course there are the high tension, adrenalin experiences of the "visit to the shops"

grannypiper Sat 28-Mar-20 09:25:42

I am so glad that DH and i have spent everyday together for the last 5 years, we are used to each other and trundle along quite nicely. If had still been married to the bloke i used to be married to, i would have been locked up in prison for murder.

eazybee Sat 28-Mar-20 09:29:39

I think it probably will, and I think a few wives are going to be surprised, rather than the other way round, but I expect there will be a rise in the birth rate as well.

Fiachna50 Sat 28-Mar-20 09:34:30

Unfortunately, yes.

Gaunt47 Sat 28-Mar-20 09:34:36

Yes a rise in the birth rate, but sadly sooner there could be a rise in cases of domestic violence.

Hetty58 Sat 28-Mar-20 09:39:16

Inevitable, i believe.

TerryM Sat 28-Mar-20 09:39:54

I think so. I whinge about my husband being home but we are quite comfortable about being at home together.
I supposed part of it was we talked about what would happen when he retired etc.
But people much younger or years away from being home all the time together plus money issues plus kids....all I can see is stress

Teetime Sat 28-Mar-20 09:41:58

Sadly I think this crisis will exacerbate all social ills but lets hope some good things come out of it too.

Harris27 Sat 28-Mar-20 09:49:44

We discussed this on our group chat keeping our spirits up from work. Yes it will be hard love my husband but as he’s got older is getting more grumpier! And I don’t mind this on limited time together. Of course I’m perfect! 😂I do hope the birth rate goes up it will keep me in a job which I need for the next six years ha ha! ( nursery nurse) .

sandelf Sat 28-Mar-20 09:53:07

I used to work in a council housing office. Huge queues after all bank holidays- 'I can't stand that man/woman another minute'... They say having an agreed private space helps - for those 'beyond' moments.

Txquiltz Sat 28-Mar-20 09:58:41

The vows said for better or worse, but they didn't say a word about being isolated for a virus! I have been married 53 years and must admit, there really can be too much of a good thing.

Sparklefizz Sat 28-Mar-20 10:21:47

I have the perfect partner to self-isolate with .... my cat. We love each other and never argue grin

M0nica Sat 28-Mar-20 10:24:03

Yes - and domestic abuse.

Whitewavemark2 Sat 28-Mar-20 10:56:53

We seem to be thoroughly enjoying ourselves. Don’t know if it will last. But with absolutely no call on us whatsoever we can relax and totally please ourselves, which we’ve embraced with great enthusiasm. It will probably wear off eventually but meanwhile......

Sophiasnana Sat 28-Mar-20 14:12:51

Interesting question. I have been retired for 7 years, my husband for 4. We get along nicely, he enjoys time in his mancave/study. But I am usually out with friends, seeing the grandchildren etc four or five times weekly. Its a different story being cooped up together 24/7! When I suggested we each go for a walk separately to get a bit of breathing space, he was most huffy with me! 😩😩

threexnanny Sat 28-Mar-20 14:23:08

As SPHIASNANA says, it's not the time spent together that's any different, it's the time that is usually spent apart that gave us something fresh to say.

Pikachu Sat 28-Mar-20 14:24:49

If I have to spend months isolated with DH it’s not the virus that will kill him.