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Is volunteering selfish?

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Hetty58 Wed 22-Apr-20 08:13:22

Oprah2020, there's no way that you should volunteer - it's just too risky!

Marydoll Wed 22-Apr-20 08:07:06

Gabriel56, I'm surprised that you are not on the sheilding list. I have your conditions, with lung disease and am sheilding.

The British heart Foundation have a very good explanation on their site, about people with heart conditions.
www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/news/coronavirus-and-your-health

You need to keep yourself safe.

Gabriel56 Wed 22-Apr-20 08:04:03

Oprah2020 I'm so glad you've made your decision - hope you both stay safe and well and I'm sure we'll do all we are able to do once this nightmare is over!

Oprah2020 Wed 22-Apr-20 07:42:57

So good to read all the comments and to find that others also have that feeling of wanting to do something but their wise mind saying they must leave it as the best thing to do is stay at home. Like Gabriel56, I rarely mention the Diabetes although of course the internal reminders to stick to the diet, exercise and tiredness if I stray off course never go away. I see also that DH is more vulnerable because of his age. As Barmy points out it feels very strange not to be doing stuff and leave it to younger fitter people. Your comments help me to see sense.

Gabriel56 Tue 21-Apr-20 15:40:11

I have been asked to help with deliveries for a local farm shop - I am generally well and no one could tell by looking at me but I do have coronary artery disease and angina along with rheumatoid arthritis. All are well controlled and I don't talk about it outside my family but I feel I should say no. I interpret the vulnerable list as showing heart disease as heart failure etc but I have to decide for myself I suppose. OP, diabetes is a definite condition on the list so I would declined if I were you. I realise I'm just rambling on here so apologies for that - just feeling a bit useless and low I suppose! Stay safe and well everyone flowers

notanan2 Tue 21-Apr-20 15:06:50

Thats fair Barmey
And staying away from others counts as a good deed these days too!

Barmeyoldbat Tue 21-Apr-20 14:52:22

I usually help at the local food bank but I am afraid I am giving it a miss at the moment, I just don't want to be with people. I must admit I do go out daily on my bike but never really meet anyone and I do shop once, sometimes twice a week but I feel safe. Not sure I would feel safe in a work type environment.

Hithere Tue 21-Apr-20 13:57:11

Listen to your instincts.

25Avalon Tue 21-Apr-20 13:44:15

You are the vulnerable. In my village it feels strange to not be one of the volunteers as I have been in the past. Now is the time for the next generation however. And they have stepped up to the mark.

notanan2 Tue 21-Apr-20 13:43:14

I think if you want to volunteer you could find a way to do so that is low risk for you.

You do not need to do it through work, being synical its good PR for them to have you all volunteering through them, but theres no reason why you cant take up other, less risky volunteer roles that have nothing to do with work

SalsaQueen Tue 21-Apr-20 13:37:46

I'm 61, work only in the mornings, I have mild Asthma. I'm doing some voluntary work for the Red Cross at the moment - collecting prescriptions, getting shopping, etc., for people within a 5 mile radius. I wouldn't do it if it was 12 miles away.

Mapleleaf Tue 21-Apr-20 13:07:43

Yes, as a diabetic, you, too, fall into the vulnerable category. It is admirable to want to help, but you have to put your own safety and that of your DH first.

TwiceAsNice Tue 21-Apr-20 13:04:21

You too are at risk besides your husband. 12 miles is a long way to drive in these circumstances. I would not please keep yourselves safe.

rosenoir Tue 21-Apr-20 12:58:11

I would not do it,your husband is one of the vulnerable.

There are many young fit people that are safely volunteering.

Oprah2020 Tue 21-Apr-20 12:14:09

I've been invited by my workplace to volunteer with packing and delivery for vulnerable. This is around 12 miles from home. I'd love to help but have to decide whether this is being selfish by putting DH at risk. He is 73 with mild asthma. I'm over 65 and have type 2 diabetes. Generally speaking, we feel reasonably fit.