Emotional? ????

My oldest grandchild sent me a 'hug' token through the post ( something to keep in my pocket and hug when I get lonely), and says all she wants for her 9th birthday is to be able to run into my arms for a big hug (along with the list of suggested presents she's given me ). I have been conducting daily Skype maths lessons with her to give her mum a break.

oh my goodness, I am so sorry, I never thought my post would be taken the wrong way, it was not at all meant to be patronising. Sympathy to those who cannot get out of that awful pit

Crafty one. Sorry but I agree with MawB and FarNorth. That’s great for you well done. However many don’t have a garden. Many don’t do crafts. Many become paralysed from time to time by absolute despair and sadness which no amount of worthy activities can cure, and indeed it is well nigh impossible on those days to do anything at all.

Your self- organisation is admirable Craftyone and it works for you.
However, feeling a sense of heightened emotion at times of personal or indeed general crisis is not “wallowing” but a perfectly normal psychological reaction.
It is not helpful to anybody who may be experiencing symptoms of anxiety to be told to do knitting or cross stitch. It works for you , that’s good, but not for everyone.
Yes exercise is a mood enhancer, raising endorphin levels but there will be times in many people’s lives when it all becomes too much and they will find themselves weeping at the most trivial trigger.
I am sure your intention was to be helpful, and not to patronise, but sometimes a sympathetic shoulder or “listening ear” is called for and “advice” (if any) only couched in the gentlest terms.

craftyone, all that is nice but not everyone is a naturally upbeat and optimistic person like you and we are in very strange and frightening times.

Your final paragraph sounds quite patronising.
Everyone is doing their best to get along and if that includes having a weep, or sharing on here that they feel upset, that may be more helpful to them than trying to keep busy.

I have been through the emotional patch and come out on the other side, I am naturally an upbeat optimistic person and that helps. Every day, every single day, I have a routine that involves doing something that I call positive in the morning, which in my case starts at around 6. At around 1.30 I draw a line across and feel I deserve the afternoon relaxation period

I garden, even if clearing stones from my new build garden which has been the usual new build dump, I potter in the garden, which is very uplifting on a daily basis because thankfully it is spring and mostly we have sunshine. Even delighting on my expnding colony of worms in my wormeries

I bake, I make things, I go on a cycle ride most days, I will clear a cupboard or shelves, I will de-clutter a bit. All positive stuff not boring humdrum housework that no-one sees

I roughly plan my meals on a daily basis and always get my 7-9 intake of veg and fruit and I make sure I get outside every day, particularly in the morning, to get this importanat light to the important pineal gland in my brain. The gland that produces melatonin and enables me to sleep well and have a steady circadian rhythmn or body clock

There are ways and means to get uplifted and it does not involve sitting in a corner, it all involves a bit of activity that makes us say `I like that` Then to stop the brain `wallowing` try an audible book or feelgood music to change the brainwaves, try it while knitting or doing crosstitch, there will not be space for unwanted thoughts to creep in

Hello lovely ladies, nice to connect with everyone on here. I think it's very normal in these difficult times to get emotional and I know some of my men friends are feeling a bit up and down as well so I don't think it's just us ladies. I live alone but have two kids living with partners nearby and a 4 month old granddaughter. It's so hard not being able to cuddle her or help out like I did at the start . No hugs with the kids, it's rubbish isn't it? I find writing amusing poetry about it all helps.. chatting to family on video calls and staying in touch with friends and finding lovely ladies like all of you on here. Stay safe, stay strong xx

Thank you for all your posts, I have been really over emotional for weeks. The slightest thing sets me off, and I also have to make excuses to go and have a private cry.
Just like everybody else, it is the worry for family members, seeing the terrible news daily, and going a bit stir crazy being indoors all day.
But things are starting to look up, it seems so anyway.

Our local WI has a rota system on the go for collecting and delivering prescriptions to vulnerable people in lockdown. Our GP surgery is six miles away and it's a further two miles out of their way to get to us so we're very grateful.

I shouted a 'Thank You' to the woman who dropped off DH's meds this morning and felt quite tearful when she asked if we were OK and did we need anything?

We're in our ninth week now and coping well but just occasionally it gets to you.

My life has been very 'normal' for the last few weeks - just at home in the house & garden with only a couple of supermarket trips.
Today I had to leave my car at a garage for a bit, to get work done on it, so I wandered around our small town - getting my exercise.
The sight of so many notices on premises that are closed, or operating in a restricted way, left me quite cast down as they make it obvious how much everyone is being affected.

My daughter brought me a cushion with a picture of my grandson on it. She said i can cuddle that while i cant cuddle him. More sobbing!!

I am very emotional too. It doesn't take much to set me off. I was sobbing watching Britains got talent on Saturday. I think our emotions are very raw at the moment. I know with me its because i cant see my grandson and its not getting any easier the longer this lockdown goes on. Lets hope they ease it a bit soon. I know it sounds awful but i dont care about people getting back to work etc. I just want to see my grandson and family.

Yes I find myself more emotional too. Thinking back on my M&D long gone. Thinking of my missing [estranged] D & GC that I haven't seen for 7.5yrs! Their birthdays this month doesn't help things

Got a surprise visit from my other D&GD yesterday, we spoke on the phone whilst she was driving & then she said we're outside mum We had a long chat, they stayed in the car, it was lovely and yes I did have to bite my bottom lip to stop a tear or two! Have to do the same when they 'Facetime' Always saw them twice per week and all day into the evening on a Friday, as that is my day off [every day's a day off now] That was the first I'd seen them since the lockdown Very hard not to give them a kiss & cuddle, but we blow kisses & caught them lol.

for all, keep safe & try to be happy xx

PurplePixie Re your GC not replying to your txt, did you put who it was from? Otherwise if it's a new phone & first message from you it wouldn't come up, so a message with Hi hope you're ok, love you could be from any of their many friends, so difficult for them to reply not knowing who sent it.
Just a thought x

Oh I'm more emotional too. Captain Tom and his fly past got me, as did the news on possible plasma therapy giving at risk people antibodies, and much more. I have a chewed bottom lip and quite often have to pop 'upstairs'. It is a sad time we are living in and it really helps to shed the tears.

You’re definitely not alone, I think a lot of people are feeling like this. I can cry at anything these days. Just talking to a friend on the phone (used to be a neighbour in the next village to where we lived), still keep in contact with her and in normal circumstances will visit her and have lunch with her. She’s on her own and no children, no other family around her either. We have dropped things off for her at her door. Today I’d got her a little present of some barley sugars along with some carrots. We dropped them off at the door. She rang later to say thank you and even that reduced me to tears almost. It’s a very emotional time.

Yup - very weepy day today and yesterday. Getting used to being on my own is very hard with no family contact. Just have to take a deep breath and carry on. But it does seem seriously pointless some days.

Yes, I am also very emotional at the moment. We have an autistic child in our road who is 14 today. We all turned out to sing ‘Happy Birthday’ to him, and I almost ‘lost it’. I think it’s because we are all putting on a brave face to get through these difficult times and then something takes us unawares.

I’ve had very bad crying spells every day. Miss my friends so much

Even though I am happy enough being home with my husband and we are enjoying our time together, my emotions are very close to the surface. Usually it is something to do with the News or somebody being kind. I can cry in an instant which I find embarrassing.

Maw, you are not alone, I too feel emotion very close to the surface at the moment and cry at sad things, happy things and lots in between, the whole situation is quite overwhelming at times but we will get through it, we will.

Ooh, 3nanny6 I hadn't heard that! Something to look forward to then.

Is being emotional just a woman thing? My DH doesn't seem to be affected at all. Me, on the other hand, are a blubbering mess at the drop of anything good or bad happening

I'm not a crier and wish I was as I feel like an earlier post it would be a release. Some of these posts make me feel emotional and I feel admiration for our lots of you are dealing with this situation. The thread yesterday by Lucky girl made me feel both admiration for the way she has/is dealing with her problem and emotional as well. Take care allx

I'm so pleased to hear its not just me. my DGD just sent me a text to say she misses me lots and I just burst in to tears!