WWYD

Your elderly father is at risk. I think if the children and their mother are going to shops or anywhere else they could possibly pass the virus on. Also are your son and partner staying away from others? You need to be careful. Its early days. Just say no if you're not comfortable doing it. If they don't understand its their problem.

It sounds as if its still against the rules, so if you feel uncomfortable with it you have the excuse not too. What’s the R level where you are? You could use that too as a reason to prevaricate until things improve further.

Yes you have been put in an impossible situation. Mixing four or five households in the way you describe not only goes against the government guidelines, it goes against everything we know about this virus. The more people you are exposed to in enclosed spaces, the higher the risk.

It's not one of those scenarios where we can ask "What harm could it possibly do?", because it's clear to see where.

Thank you, my son has assured me that he and his partner are not having contact with anyone and I’m fairly confident that the children’s mothers are sticking to the guidelines as well, but they are still going out shopping, as is my son’s partner. I think they are all being as vigilant as they can be but I still worry about the risks but then worry that I’m overreacting. I just feel so torn.

That's an awful lot of people coming into contact with your son's family.
It's probably going to be fine, but the repercussions if someone did get the virus could affect a lot of people. (Who may well be fine, even with the virus)

Are you in a high risk area Willidel? So much depends on where you lives and how likely it is you’ll meet an infected person.

We’re lucky. In our rural District Council area only about 0.2% are likely to have the virus today. And half of them at least will be isolating. So the chances of meeting one is fairly remote.

When in doubt, dont, you are risking not only your health but your elderly fathers. It isn’t fair on him.

I’m in Wales, we have had a high number of infections where I live although numbers have been dropping in recent weeks and only small number of daily infections now being recorded.

I really feel for you, what a dilemma.

How big is your house? Can you keep out of each other's way as much as possible when they are in the house?

How old are the other two children?

As others have said, are you in a high infection area?

Can you be extra careful about sanitising before you go to your father's place?

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So he has children from two previous relationships and has now started a new relationship with a woman in a one bed apartment.

Sounds like he needs to get his act together and find a place for himself and his children. His new girlfriend can then move in with him.

Sorry to sound harsh, and i know you are trying to be as helpful as possible, but he needs to be self reliant.

I was thinking that,
Glad you said it, though!

He can still see his children, just not have them overnight. I feel he is most unreasonable to want to put you and your father at risk.

I agree with Espee. He's being selfish.