Sorry this is so long
Doodle I hope your seaside trip went well. It's always good to breathe in that ocean air.
A limit of 6? Your family will have to visit in relays
There aren't 6 people in our whole family.
Panache I am so angry with the management of your complex, they should be held to account.
As Doodle says, you both need proper nutrition.
Can you negotiate to withold the 'food money' you pay them and arrange something better via Meals on Wheels, Salvation Army, Red Cross?
If I were you, I'd drop a line to Grey Power and let them know what's going on.
I'm not joking when I say this is elder abuse and a reason to make a fuss.
Mamissimo they're not telling you the truth. Sir Tom didn't march round his garden so your beloved daughter could be denied dignity and rights. No one relies on snail mail and if there's something amiss with computers then they should get an IT person in. Tout de suite!
Grammaretto Your poor, poor husband, I could weep for him, I really could. I hope things get better soon.
Maybe your DGD would like a special photo session - family or solo portrait?
Nortsat mch.govt.nz/nz-identity-heritage/flags/national-m%C4%81ori-flag
Some of it is typical government twaddle - especially respecting the original NZ flag. John Key tried to abolish it shortly afterwards!
The symbolism of the colours, although semi-accurate on this page is more informally seen as: Red - the earth, the physical realm and blood shed.
White: spiritual realm, hope, eternity through the unfolding koru and very occasionally the white culture. Black is what we all came from: nothingness 'te kore' and the earth but is also seen by some Maori as their colour.
It caused a lot of anti-Maori racism at first but with government backing it was flown in defiance and now it's accepted - and not just at special occasions.
Bone People I was in UK when it came out and a NZ friend sent it to me.
There are several reasons why it was not fallen upon with great joy.
Many publishers turned it down because they didn't understand it. Therefore the general public, used to much-easier-to-read books didn't either. This was elite, literary fiction, not Agatha Christie.
It's graphically violent; in those days not what most laid-back Kiwis thought of as entertainment.
It's about Maori who, in 1985 were pretty much disregarded as a people, let alone a worthy subject for a prize-winning book which sought to explain the effects of colonisation and repression of their race.
Add to that, Keri Hulme (the Kerewin Holmes character in the book) wouldn't go on tour or do book signings or indeed act like the standard novelist eager to promote her work.
She was a recluse, uncomfortable in company; not an easy person to interview.
So all in all, she and her book were beyond most people's comprehension.
Despite all that and as we've grown up in a literary sense and as more fine Maori writers have been published, The Bone People has been given classic status - and Keri Hulme has gone back to her remote home outside Okarito. www.okarito.net 
The therapeutic value of water is much under-rated. It was absolute, total bliss in the pool today.
I began with water-walking, thinking I'd ease myself into it after such a long time.
My crook left knee began complaining immediately, so I ignored it.
Two laps told me faffing about WW wasn't going to be enough. I need to work hard.
So I moved lanes and swam, barrelling (now there's a good word for a portly matron) through the water, arms flailing, legs flapping behind - and managed a full hour of vibrant, wonderful exercise - in a mask
What fun !