Refusing to wear a mask

He is very healthy but I wear a mask to protect others so expected that he would do the same.

You say you brought him up to think for himself
The figure of 200,000 dead out of a population of 328 million makes that 0.06 of the population.
He's probable done the maths and come to the conclusion that his chances of getting the virus are very small. Together with the fact that he's a young man and hopefully living a healthy lifestyl.

Unfortunately saying anything to contradict him could easily cause strife. At this stage, I would just be happy that you live in a different country.

I think it's fine to say you disagree and leave it at that. I dont agree with my dad on a myriad of issues but we survive.

I can’t really blame younger people for thinking as they do. Right at the start, we were told Covid wouldn’t affect most people. Only 1 in 5. Of those, only a small proportion would die. Not much different to deaths for any other reason. When you look at deaths in the U.K., as sad as it is, it IS, and I hate to say ‘ only’, but out of 70 million, not much. You could ask him how he feels Covid has been overhyped, and get him to explain. Outside of that, you can’t really do anything, just lead by example and keep safe yourself.

On a holiday forum I'm on, earlier in the year a man was being very scornful about the likelihood of the virus crossing the US from the outbreaks (at the time) on the west and east coasts and said, "Do you not realise what a huge country this is?"
I felt like replying, "It's already made it from China, what makes you think it's going to stop now?"

All you can do is acknowledge his views, say you disagree and then agree to differ and do not mention it again. I have done this with DD on a number of times and we remain close However on, COVID and masks we are in complete accord. We are both hardliners over wearing of them.

it was mentioned on either Daily Politics or Jeremy vine this morning that 2 Americans, opposed to mask wearing had died of covid. You could mention that gently, in passing.

To be honest esspee you can only bring them up the well rounded way you have, until they become adults, what they do with that upbringing after then is really not your business
You can no more tell him what to do or how to think about a mask than you can tell him which politics to follow
He’s not a naughty boy who has to follow his mums views you have brought him up to think of others that’s all you can do your job is finished
He has every right to make his own decisions on what to wear and what not to wear and you have every right to disagree but that really is all
Your husband is right keep your thoughts to yourself he’s an adult and made his decisions The fact you don’t agree with his decisions is immaterial

He's living in a different country on a different continent. You can't expect him to follow the "rules" we have here even if you do believe ours is a better way. I'd say nothing.

Definitely don’t say anything, he sounds like a decent chap. And I tend to agree with him.

I feel so disappointed. Perhaps I do need to step back and hope his upbringing will come to the fore in the long run.

I have family in the US and friends too and they are all anti mask wearing, all against lock downs and restrictions. They say the figures are no different to other years with the usual flu deaths. I think the feeling over there among many people is that too much fuss is being made in other countries.

I think you would be wise to say nothing unless he actually asks your opinion, then simply say you don't agree but he's an adult must make his own choices.

I'd not say a word either.

He's a grown man after all

He sounds as if he's a happy, well rounded chap, (apart from his mask issue) and you should not be too disappointed.

I agree with Illte don’t respond, it’s always disappointing when children don’t come up to the standards we expect.

I’m in my 70’s and have a heart condition so I am deeply concerned.
I brought my children up to care for society as a whole. I taught him to be articulate and think for himself and now he runs rings round me with statistics.
I’ve noticed on Mumsnet that lots of that generation are thinking like him.

Problem is that when you look at the the statistics as a percentage of the population very few die from Covid and the average age is similar to the average age of death anyway. Most people who die have comorbidities.

Don't say anything.

He won't change his mind until someone he knows is really ill or worse.

Even then he might just think they were unlucky.

He feels that few people have had 'serious repercussions'. I don't think the over 200K people who have died in the United States would agree! Nor would the many sufferers from what is now recognised as 'long Covid'. Surely the statistics speak for themselves.

Tricky. Perhaps you shouldn't criticise his decision directly but mention that people's experiences and opinions here are different. Although some people object to the restrictions, the majority, especially the more mature and/or vulnerable are in favour of them.