Help! I can't keep up

Petra agree......but why should He move into the garden shed? Better for him to stay in his home and she can have total seclusion in that shed!!!!!

I feel sorry for the husband. Imagine living like this.
I think I'd move into the garden shed if I was him.

Thanks for all your comments everyone.

My mum also 89 had COVID in hospital early November and is still testing positive. Mum is being looked after by carers 3 times a day, nobody else has been in ,the dr and carers are all agreed it’s for the best. If I were you I would keep away from your husband as much as possible separate rooms, and separate beds for 10 days. Good luck I hope their both okay.

Why doesn't he have a COVID test? I presume that would alleviate your fears. Alternative go into quarantine for 10 days.

I agree 100% with Franbern. This level of cleaning, disinfecting and anti bacterial wiping is almost manic; no wonder your OH is getting hacked off with it.

The short answer to the OPs question 'Is she being paranoid?' is YES. and not surprised that her partner is feeling rather annoyed at being treated dlike a pariah in his own home.
For heavens sake, get some sort of proportion. You say you are sleeping apart, I assume you are not cuddling during waking hours.
Forget all the wiping down - and just throw open all you windows for an hour or so every day, wash your hands regularly and keep to NORMAL hygiene rules and just be happy to have him back with you
If that is not enoujgh for you ask him to get a test.

It depends on whether he’s been observing social distancing, keeping windows open when tradesmen were in the house etc. doesn’t it? If he has, then the risk to him and you is much reduced.

Well it sounds as if you are doing what you can given the circumstances. I would try to relax a bit now and keep busy doing something that interests you. Maybe start a new book or whatever takes your fancy. You have been sensible and can't do any more.

At the beginning of the first lockdown two family members returned from abroad to stay with their parents, one of whom is shielding. For the requisite two weeks the younger people stayed in their own room upstairs, used their own bathroom. For meals they used the dining room. The parents ate in the kitchen, food being provided by the parents for the younger people also. For the duration they communicated using technology. No problem whatsoever. At the end of the isolation period normal mixing within the household. No outside contact. All worked perfectly. So I suggest that you do the same until Christmas.

Hi lemsip, thanks for your reply. I am being fairly secretive but I think he is aware, as I ask him to wash his hands a lot and he just keeps sighing (I think I am getting on his nerves a bit). Daisymae, thanks for your reply - you're right but it is so difficult to keep enough distance. We are sleeping in separate rooms but, during the day, it is impossible to distance, although I am turning away from him indoors.

He surely should be isolating for 10 days? I know its difficult but all the wiping down in the world won't help if you are breathing in the same air. Could you not keep as separate as possible for the next week?

no you are not being paranoid!!! It is sensible to do what you are doing! I presume he knows you are doing all you say you do and is frequently handwashing and wiping down things he touches aswell. Don't let it be a secret fear.