My mother, aged 93, had a DNR on her notes during her recent hospital stay. The doctors did discuss it with her, but she refused to accept it, saying she wanted to be resuscitated in the event of her collapse. I discussed this with my daughter who is a doctor. She explained to me in extremely graphic detail what happens during resuscitation. It is not pleasant. Marydoll and Septimia have already mentioned this up thread, but I think many people just do not understand the violent nature of resuscitation. My daughter told me if resuscitation is successful, the patient would then need to go into ITU and despite that patient being successfully resuscitated, the final outcome is absolutely not assured. Very old patients have about a 3% to 5% chance of being resuscitated successfully and in common with all other patients regardless of age, are likely to be left with other physical injuries, caused by the resuscitation. A young and otherwise healthy adult will stand a good chance of eventual recovery, but people my of my mother’s age, or those with other co morbidities do not do well at all.
My mother’s doctor in the hospital signed her DNR because he/she was legally entitled to do so, regardless of any objections from my mother or her family. Obviously, the medics try to discuss rationally with the patient and their family, but my mother is stubborn and refused to yield. I felt that resuscitation on such an old lady would be both pointless and cruel, and I told my mother that this was my opinion.
I get a little fed up with the emotive language used around DNRs. Medics do not practice euthanasia, they decide, often in a team and discussion with family, whether or not DNR is suitable in the event of the patient’s death. Resuscitation is not suitable for everyone. It is not only violent, but is more often unsuccessful than it is successful.