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Seems like I'm being left behind!

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nananet01 Fri 19-Feb-21 12:53:36

Hi there, I'm surprised how I feel after my husband was vaccinated this morning. He is 67 and I am 63, so he has been called in. The letter from the NHS offered a booking online or the alternative, to wait until our gp surgery called him in. He was going to take the 2nd option as we'd hoped to go together. Then on the spur, he went online and booked. I am very happy for him, however I now feel out on a limb and my anxiety has increased because all of our friends have been vaccinated, now my husband has, and not me. I cannot understand why or how I am feeling like I am when I am so grateful he has had his jab. I know it won't be long until it's my turn, but until then I feel set apart from everyone. It's hard to put into words.

Caro57 Sat 20-Feb-21 10:35:16

Maybe you feel that as you are at ‘more’ risk than they are now and that as the vaccine is not 100% you are, potentially, still putting them at risk of contracting Covid. Remember even though some have been vaccinated they should still be behaving as if they haven’t and they are not your responsibility. Your turn will come

SueSocks Sat 20-Feb-21 04:20:45

I agree with Boz. Back in Dec my friends husband got a cancellation, she asked if they would do her as well, they agreed, it was the Pfizer vaccination.
My husband had a text on 7th Feb and he booked to go 90 mins later. Given the experience of my friend and the fact that I too am desperate to get the vaccine, I thought I would go along and ask if they would do me as well. What's the worse that could happen - they could say no! They asked my age (63) & if we were at the same GP practice (yes) & agreed to do it. We went to a centre in a massive sports hall, there were no more than 10 "patients" in total, horrible wet sleety evening - maybe that is why they agreed. We had the Astra Zeneca vaccine.
In the past week, this area have been vaccinating the early 60s people, so I didn't gain much in terms of time, just peace of mind. My life hasn't changed yet obviously, still following all the guidelines to the letter but mentally I feel better.
Nananet01, I understand totally how you feel, I hope you get your vaccine soon, if your area is anything like this one, it won't be long now.

rosie1959 Sat 20-Feb-21 03:17:47

Between ages 65 to 70 and 60 to 64 is group 6 which is a very big group so expecting a bit of a wait yet

Grandma2213 Sat 20-Feb-21 02:46:31

Interesting post. I feel that whatever we are 'told' on the news there are variations between areas, individuals and what is happening on the ground. Urmstongran - for example that gentleman may have been lucky in that there was a surplus that needed to be used rather than wasted. Others are less fortunate. I am sure this happens in many other situations too so I often take news reports with a pinch of salt for this reason. What concerns me most of all is that no matter how far ahead we, as a country are, until the whole world has the same access to vaccination the virus can spread and mutate enough to make the current vaccines ineffective. Sorry to sound negative but that's how viruses work. On the positive side however history is full of these events and the human race has survived. nananet01 - one day this will all be just a bad memory. Anxiety, yours or mine, won't change it. I wish all of you the very best.

Urmstongran Fri 19-Feb-21 18:28:18

I had mine Wednesday and the nurse said are you here with anyone who would like the vaccine? I told her Himself had been jabbed last week. The lady further along said ‘my husband is in the car outside’ and the nurse looked really pleased and asked that on her way out she ask him to stand at the door!

rubysong Fri 19-Feb-21 18:27:13

DH, 72, had his appointment two weeks ago and asked I could have one. I am 69. They were happy to do it. It wasn't busy as it was towards the end of the session. It has saved us 70miles of driving.

Calendargirl Fri 19-Feb-21 18:21:24

Boz

Just go in with him and ask to be vaccinated at the same time as you live in the same household etc. etc. They will not refuse.

I wouldn’t have thought that would work, if you’ve not got an appointment and aren’t yet eligible because you are younger.

Just wait your turn, it will soon be here.

Greyduster Fri 19-Feb-21 18:11:10

My cousin in Southern Ireland says their roll out is very slow. He and his wife are in their mid seventies like me, and don’t expect to be vaccinated until late March at the earliest. He also thinks their lockdown could continue until September. We are fortunate here I think.

B9exchange Fri 19-Feb-21 17:20:04

I would keep checking the www.nhs.uk website, and as soon as they let you, but through that, you don't have to wait for a letter.

Ellianne Fri 19-Feb-21 17:10:16

If that's the case I'm going to roll up with my husband tomorrow.

Casdon Fri 19-Feb-21 17:09:04

Was that this week Boz? We’ve had a clear message from our Health Board not to ask. The vaccine is in short supply at the moment.

Boz Fri 19-Feb-21 15:56:47

By the way, I had the Astra Seneca on the 13th Jan. Of course it depends on supplies but it it worth asking.

Boz Fri 19-Feb-21 15:54:04

Don't ask on the telephone; they just work to the lists and can't help. I went with my older H and got done; I really just asked them nicely. Just say "Is it possible etc. etc.. My friend aged 61 went with her Mum who is 87 and asked the same. "Of Course" the said. Just go for it.

Casdon Fri 19-Feb-21 14:25:47

I’m pretty sure they would refuse Boz if it’s the Astra Zeneca vaccine, because it is being done in age order at the moment as they are awaiting new vaccine deliveries. My sister asked this week, in the same situation, and was told they had only done that with the Pfizer vaccine where people hadn’t turned up for appointments and they had to use it all by the end of that day or waste it. Hopefully more Pfizer vaccine will be coming next week.

Kittycat Fri 19-Feb-21 13:59:31

My husband 74yrs had his 1st jab 3 weeks ago which we are both very pleased about. He wanted me 63yrs to go in with him to see if I could get mine done at the same time as we live together but I told him no they won’t do that- which of course they don’t. He says we’ve been together all these years and been at home together all this time so it would be sensible to do us together! Bless him he’s worried about me catching it before I get vaccinated! We won’t be venturing out till both vaccinated whenever that is!

Georgesgran Fri 19-Feb-21 13:48:06

My DH has his nearly 3 weeks ago. He’s 70, but I’m in the next category. I could have had mine done in several different locations last week, but DH was so poorly, I chose to wait until it was safe to leave him. Had mine done yesterday afternoon.

Sorry Boz - but we tried that when DH got his, as I had to take him in, but it was a definite ‘no’.

nananet01 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:43:46

That doesn't make any sense at all Ellianne!

nananet01 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:42:40

Boz, I didn't think to do that. We did call last evening beforehand and asked if it was possible but as I am not yet eligible they said no

Ellianne Fri 19-Feb-21 13:41:16

Grrr a bit of envy, anger and leg pulling from me on this issue yesterday. My husband 60 got a call from the surgery and gets his tomorrow. He asked about his wife 62, but they checked and I am not on the list yet!

Boz Fri 19-Feb-21 13:38:59

Just go in with him and ask to be vaccinated at the same time as you live in the same household etc. etc. They will not refuse.

nananet01 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:37:46

I could have written that polarbear2!

MayBee70 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:34:01

I did have vaccine envy until I suddenly had a phone call from my surgery saying they were now vaccinating the under 70’s. I think it was because I was so close to 70 and for once wanted to be older than I actually am and also that many people I knew were being vaccinated but hadn’t been anywhere near as careful as I have been over the past year (eg meeting up with families/seeing them at Christmas etc). I felt they’d actually had a life of sorts and I’d put my life on hold waiting for a vaccine. I know it was mean spirited if me but it’s how I felt.

Polarbear2 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:32:43

I think it’s a bit of anxiety. I do know how you feel as I’m in the same situation. It’s irrational I know but I feel a bit edgy too. I’m comparing it to that edge of seat thing when you’re at the airport and they haven’t called your seat -and it really doesn’t matter if you’re not first, but you still get jumpy for when your number is called. ?. It’ll be our turn soon. ?

nananet01 Fri 19-Feb-21 13:31:13

Yes you all have good and valid points to make. As I said, I am really surprised to feel anything other than extremely grateful and happy for my lovely husband. I have pressed home that he still needs to be careful, he is so much more relaxed than me. Septimia and Alegrias1, you seem to understand what I am saying, thank you and yes bluebelle, I have heard myself say many times, the more of us vaccinated the safer we all are, it would have been great to be done together but logistically it wasn't going to happen. That is why my feelings took me by surprise.

simtib Fri 19-Feb-21 13:28:07

If I had the option of having my jab or being 10 years younger I would gladly give up my jab and I am fairly fit for my age.