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Doodle Wed 27-Nov-24 19:25:41

It began as group support during difficult times and although Covid has faded a little, the friendship has endured and become stronger.

Still here for anyone to join a non-judgemental, caring thread during the often challenging time in life.

We don't have all the answers but in the spirit of Doodle and Cherry who began it all, and with a happy lobster as our mascot, we do offer friendship and often a bit of very cheeky chat.

NotSpaghetti Thu 20-Feb-25 08:05:42

I'm glad you at least are being given proper consideration Kaimoana - though am sorry you are so itchy!
The trouble with skin problems on your back is they are so hard to reach
😬😬😬

Kaimoana2 Thu 20-Feb-25 20:26:40

GN have taken away the photo upload buttons or I'd show you my trusty long-handled sponge NotS
When you live alone and cannot call 'Come and wash my back, darling' an alternative is essential. grin
I may attempt to have a shower today; it's been too painful hitherto. Itchy I can tolerate, it's the pain gets me down.

Stoic and stinky Grammaretto - sounds like cartoon characters.
I keep telling my skin we have so much - it simply doesn't listen.

DS is sounding cheerful, saying most of the stress he had in NZ has gone and he's feeling hopeful. He has new winter clothing, warm wool blend overcoat included. smile

He actually enjoys what we would call 'bad weather' and has from a boy, whereas sunny days enervate him. A true northern lad. smile

Mepa is due, so I better scoot.

Doodle Thu 20-Feb-25 20:53:46

Notspaghetti hat a lovely thing to say. Thank you. How nice you still keep that little heart.
Kaimoana you don’t ā€œjust have bad skinā€ you have such a lot to cope with with your eyesight and other ailments plus the emotional separation from your family. I agree Parkinson’s is an awful disease but don’t dismiss your problems so lightly.
Many of us (me included) oued be on our knees if we had to cope with all the trials and tribulations you had last year.
I do hope they can come up with a treatment plan for you soon to ease the pain and the itching. Your doctor sounds really nice

Doodle Thu 20-Feb-25 20:55:18

Kaimoana I’m glad your son sounds happier. I know it won’t make you miss him any less but we always want our children to be happy, don’t we.

Doodle Thu 20-Feb-25 21:03:36

Grammaretto I read you were going to pick up some new shoes today. Are they nice, will you be keeping them?
Someone commented yesterday that our church seems to run on home made cake. Certainly seems to be true. Had a lovely selection this afternoon for our bereavement group. I don’t have lunch otherwise I can’t fit in enough cake 🤣

Doodle Thu 20-Feb-25 21:04:50

Kaimoana you’re right the photos selection has been taken away temporarily. Some problem with mumsnet apparently

ixion Thu 20-Feb-25 21:57:21

I hope you are dosed up on adequate pain relief and anti-itch meds, Kaimoana and that a diagnosis will be swift.

My cold still prevails, making me even slower and less motivated than normal.

I have this evening found the perfect antidote to the depressing ongoing world news and feeling rubbish.
We have found The Lady Killers (1955😳) on tv, and I'm currently watching it with my heated throw and a hefty Baileys.🄃

Kaimoana2 Fri 21-Feb-25 02:47:44

ixion the perfect remedy indeed. I do hope you feel better soon.

Alas, paracetamol and at a push codeine, is all I'm allowed but as the latter causes...well, you know what it causes...wink I wouldn't take it unless truly desperate.

In fact I'm a sad case all round as so much adversely affects me
Like Cherry I have a long history of being felled by meds most people find helpful.

I can't eat take-aways, processed or packaged foods and sat here shaking with laughter when Doodle mentioned enjoying copious amounts of cake and ixion comforted herself with Baileys as all forms of cake and alcohol is off my menu.

Last week, a piece of cheese scone not much bigger than a 50p piece made me very ill indeed. I'd had no breakfast so I was considering my BS levels and ate it without thinking.
I'm a fool to myself grin

I'm to have an MRI. The Xrays showed what we've known for ages, degeneratie vertebrae and now some scoliosis (Yay! Me and Richard the Third smile ) but there's another issue and it's not bones.

You know what's going to happen, don't you? My wonderful medical team will solve all my problems and I'll feel on top of the world again - and I'll cash in me chips! grin

Looks like I've turned into one of those old witches who bore on about their ailments but I know you care and at least if you don't, when you see my name you can skip the post. smile

Yes, I was much heartened by DS's upbeat post and it seems Gubbins is taking his absence in her stride, enjoying nightly FaceTimes with Daddy.

Dear, dear Mepa took me to buy more rongoa (Maori herbal remedy) which is the only thing which has ever helped my psoriasis. Instead of the anticipated $20 I paid last week it was $35, albeit another brand and slightly more content.
She paid the difference and absolutely refused to let me reimburse her.

Sad thing is, if I could get into the bush, only a few kilometres away, I could gather as much as I need for free.

Zarah has to see a noticeable difference to my skin by Thursday or it's hospital for sure.

Dentist on Tuesday.

Grammaretto Fri 21-Feb-25 08:57:39

You are indeed a very special lady Kaimoana. We all knew that but why does it need to extend to your skin?

Holistic medicine is the answer
including upbeat messages from DS!
I hope the rongoa works. Fingers crossed šŸ¤ž

Kaimoana2 Fri 21-Feb-25 19:49:49

Haha, Grammaretto I am assuming that in Scotland the word 'special' means weird? grin

Holistic is the only way for me and once I got my rongoa yesterday I brewed it and drank it, including several times during the night. Just a little glass each time but I'm sure there's a difference already.

I was first introduced to Kumerahou in 1990 when Te Rangi Kaihoro, a man who, with his Mum, Nan, became a good friend.
He saw the psoriasis on my arms, brewed 2 litres of rongoa for me and suggested I try it.

He warned me it was very bitter and by jingoes it is but has a sweet aftertaste. It works and when this problem first began all I could find were the tea bags, so weak as to be almost useless but the new (and of course more expensive) lot is great.

One of my kaumatua buddies has offered to take me out into the bush when I feel better. This will involve a lovely ritual of prayer and careful (I think we say mindful these days) gathering, only what you need.
Just being out in the bush will be a joy in itself. smile

It's almost 9am and the many, yappy dogs over the creek have been at it since before dawn.

Doodle Fri 21-Feb-25 20:14:31

Ixion I love all those Ealing Studios films. They were wonderful. Hope you start to feel better soon. The Baileys should help you sleep.
Kaimoana of course we care you know we do. You certainly have more than your fair share of problems.
Is the herbal remedy the thing I remember you going out into the bush to collect years ago? Are you hoping it will help your skin ? Dentist too. You are having a full MOT.
Have you had a chance to discuss the outcome of your MRI with the doctors and any treatment options?
I hope your herbal treatment works and you are on the mend soon. Much love dear friend and the most gentle of hugs.

Grammaretto Fri 21-Feb-25 21:04:33

How's ixion today?
Much better I hope.
I'm just a bit weary. I start the day full of ideas and energy but now, I'm already in bed with my hottie, and the radio.
I think I will keep the shoes, Doodle. They are comfy but not pretty. They have a side zip like my boots but I hope to be able to shed my boots soon.
Come on Spring!! What are you waiting for?

I'm more sad about my friend who isn't well. She had the bad news yesterday and has gone to stay with her DD who is a doctor.

It's a shame we can't post photos at the moment. My snowdrops are truly lovely šŸ˜

I had my flu jag today. Maybe that's why I'm so tired

Kaimoana2 Fri 21-Feb-25 22:35:15

What a sad time for you Grammaretto on several fronts. I'm afraid at our age, well mine anyway, it's a fact we lose so many friends. Your snowdrops will give you comfort. flowers

What a memory you have Doodle it was almost certainly kumerahou I went to gather. It is already making a difference I believe.
I wanted to know why the doctor was so shocked at seeing my back and set up a mirror photo. Blimey! I was shocked as well and it's my back!!

Haven't been for my MRI yet but will put out a bulletin when I know.

In view of the fact that the Cardiologist wanted an urgent echo-cardiogram months ago and I still have to wait until September, I may well be in my 80's before I'm called for an MRI. grin

ixion I hope the Baileys and a good night's sleep has made you feel heaps better. Love and hugs to you.

NotSpaghetti Sat 22-Feb-25 19:45:53

Yesterday was not a great day. I had wanted to tell you about a very nice trip to the ballet the day before but the whole event was overshadowed by sitting in the hospital with my daughter, yesterday.

She has apparently been feeling dizzy for a couple of days and then yesterday felt one side of her face wasn't working properly. Immediately we all thought a stroke but after lots of tests and emergency stroke meds and a CT scan (which showed nothing) she was told to go home with more tests planned.

Today she wasn't well enough to visit her sister. I hope they hurry up with her referral

Today we've been sorting out the pond that our oldest daughter and my grandson relined last autumn. We have put some large stones in so wildlife can get out more easily if they fall in, and have planted some pond plants. I hope they survive

Doodle Sat 22-Feb-25 20:05:37

Grammaretto I saw my first snowdrops yesterday. I love them. So pretty.
I am so sorry about your friend. I take it that it’s bad news. Is her daughter close by, will you be able to visit?
Im glad you’re keeping the shoes. Comfort is the most important thing. Fashion is for the young. Comfortable and sensible for the age when you don’t want to fall over
Kaimoana how are things today.? Is the kumerahou helping do you think
Notspaghetti I’m so sorry about your daughter. What a worry. I’m glad she’s been checked for stroke. Hope she gets the tests booked soon. No wonder you’re concerned
Ive been to the hospice today and had a pleasant afternoon with friends. I’ve been feeling a bit strange over the last few days (not health wise but mentally) I’ve been thinking about it a lot today and I’m wondering if it is nostalgia that’s causing me these thoughts. Most places I go are places I have been many times with Dh. Shopping yesterday with our friend a place Dh and I have been many times and other things. I just keep thinking we walked here, we sat here, we ate here and I feel longing for what was. It’s an odd feeling.
Wishing all a good weekend. I’m looking forward to church tomorrow. I feel comfortable there

Kaimoana2 Sat 22-Feb-25 21:53:03

NotS what a huge worry for you and your dear daughter. I hope all will be well. Thinking of you xxxx

Nostalgia is exactly the right word Doodle as it means 'the pain and grief of longing for home' Home also meaning the familiarity and comfort of past times shared.

We so often use the word when we're just looking back on pleasant times but as far back at the 17th century, physicians knew it went far deeper than that. So your feelings are all perfectly normal.

It's wonderful that you take your darling with you, so that it is still you and DH walking or sitting together in the old, familiar places.
A lovely thing really. smile

NotSpaghetti Sun 23-Feb-25 06:51:32

Thank you for kind thoughts regarding my daughter. I'm awake thinking of her now but as there's nothing I can do I know it's pointless... it's very difficult when your adult child is "not right" and you can't make things better. I suppose they are always our babies, aren't they

Doodle I expect you will always have a quiet longing for what you once had "everyday" - as Tennyson wrote

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Love is a miracle inspite of the inevitable grief. I believe that those of us who have loved and been loved are the fortunate ones. This thought will not help fill up the missing part of you - but the pain is surely a measure of how much you have been loved - a sort of inevitable payment for the blessings already received.

Maybe holding this truth in your heart on your darker days will remind you of past gifts and lift the spirits a little...and your faith will help you through no doubt.

Hoping today is less discombobulating Doodle
Kaimoana is right, your own dear MrDoodle will always support you.

Grammaretto Sun 23-Feb-25 09:40:50

Sorry to hear about your DD NotSpaghetti
Could it be Bell's Palsy? This is a virus affecting half your face. My friend's DD had it and it took ages to go away.
Poor girl was a teenager at the time and very self conscious

I hope whatever it turns our to be, it's treatable and she is better soon.
Sending love ā¤ļø

Grammaretto Sun 23-Feb-25 09:49:19

Whenever I hear the word Nostalgia, I think of my DM singing the song from the 1950's musical Salad Days

We said we wouldn't look back

www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DEEkif0tKdxw&ved=2ahUKEwijssCzwNmLAxWLRkEAHVOxFcEQ78AJegQIChAB&sqi=2&usg=AOvVaw3HChceKou30dDlg4Xi4hrv

NotSpaghetti Sun 23-Feb-25 10:42:57

Thank you, but I don't think it can be that as she "looks" ok and not droopy - though she "feels" droopy and has had muscle weakness she says.. A good friend had Bells Palsy years ago and you could see there was a problem.

I sent her a "how are you today" message about half an hour ago but nothing back yet
She thinks I'm "fussing" I know, but I will call her if nothing from her soon...

Doodle Sun 23-Feb-25 20:11:24

Notspaghetti I do hope your daughter is ok. I wondered about Bells Palsy too. Yes you’re right, it doesn’t matter how old they are we always worry. Thank you for your kind words, much appreciated. Yes I’ve had a better day today thank you.
Thank you too Kaimoana. I do like to think of Dh being with me always. Wherever I am
*Grammaretto I think Salad days was a bit before my time but I’ll watch the link. Hope you’ve had a good weekend. Any pottery exhibitions on the horizon?

ixion Sun 23-Feb-25 21:06:03

Another here sending NS hugs and support during this time of worry and uncertainty. What is it with adult DCs?. They don't seem to appreciate that 'no news' is, to us, NOT 'good news'. 'Not knowing' is worse than being told the truth, however unpalatable. Grrr.

How is the rongoā helping your skin, Kaimoana? I am sure you will see improvements day by day.
* --I jolly well hope so.--*.
A trip out and mindful gathering should bring peace to the soul as well as relief to your symptoms🌻.

How is the group counselling at the Hospice going, Doodle? I do hope it is helping - you are suffering so much pain. Another 🌻for you.

I am sorry to hear about your friend, Grammaretto. I received an unexpected phone call from a sister of a friend with whom I used to work decades ago. I knew that my friend had gone into a home, for help with her ongoing mobility and other issues requiring nursing care: reading between the lines, I guessed she wasn't happy there and as she became more frail, I heard less and less from her.
I always continued to write and to send little gifts (pretty tissues, hand cream etc) and this is how her sister traced me to say that she had, very sadly, died.

I now have the job of contacting those work colleagues still at the coal face who might remember her - but not many of them left, I guess.

I have decided that, as I don't qualify for a Gap Year, I might opt for a Reading Week, I have so many books awaiting my attention.
As I recall from my student DCs, this will involve dumping a large bag of washing in the laundry and putting my feet up all day 'reading', surfacing only to the call of a meal waiting at the table.

Yeah, right.

NotSpaghetti Mon 24-Feb-25 00:25:46

Thank you all. My daughter did eventually message me to say she was "still not right" but was going to try going for a little swim!
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I'm sure her boyfriend wouldn't have let her go alone

She couldn't have done that on Friday or Saturday and as she has been told she will have another appointment within the week I shall have to trust her/the NHS

Thank you all for holding her in your hearts. šŸ™ I don't feel nearly so panicky this evening.

Grammaretto and ixion - thinking of you and your friends. šŸ’
And Kaimoana- hope your skin is improving

When do you think we'll get the photo option back? I have a few things I would have shown you but sadly still no paperclip

Kaimoana2 Mon 24-Feb-25 00:42:14

ixion & Doodle I am convincing myself I see a little improvement but the kumerahou has a hard job this time as the symptoms are so severe.

However, I was able to dress today without too much pain as I had to go for another blood test.
That's definitely progress as I couldn't bear anything against my skin this time last week.

ixion how sad for you too, losing a friend. The poor lady doesn't sound to have enjoyed her time in respite care very much.

'Salad Days' was popular when I was a child. I can't imagine 2 university students acting like that now !!

I'm currently listening to a Georgette Heyer novel, set in the 1770's when women were supposed to be dainty and delicate but the heroine is what we'd call a tomboy.

Sentence: "She entered the room with her usual, free stride..."

What I heard: "She entered the room with her usual freeze-dried....." šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

NotSpaghetti Mon 24-Feb-25 07:28:44

I loved Georgette Heyer novels as a teenager Kaimoana. I loved all those curricles and high perch phaetons. I should maybe revisit them - I think Heyer is considered to be historically quite accurate... freeze drying aside!

Baby steps with your skin... at least you managed to dress! 😬

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