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DottySinger Thu 25-Jun-15 12:32:46

Anyone worried about going out of their front door?
I went out the other day, for the first time in 2 years. When I got there I was okay.
I was joining a choir, and as I love singing - I felt okay!
Then they stopped for a tea break.
I hadn't noticed until then - that they had their doors open - to let the sunny weather in.
I said to my friend who took me there - that I wanted to shut all the doors.
I wasn't cold.
That's when I realised I had a problem.
Will I ever pluck up the courage to go there again? I'm not sure!
Anyone out there who has had agoraphobia - and who is now over it?
How did you get over it? What do you suggest I do?

I need help!

Falconbird Thu 25-Jun-15 13:13:05

Hello Dotty Singer,

I've had agoraphobia since my OH passed away. I can go anywhere in the city, where I live, with varying degrees of anxiety but leaving town is totally beyond me. I did go on one coach trip but didn't enjoy it.

Was there anything that caused your agoraphobia?

I just take each day at a time and other Gransnetters helped me a lot. Just carry on doing what you did with the choir and don't be hard on yourself.

After 3 years I'm beginning to see myself going on a few trips at some time in the future.

Did you tell your GP about your problem? I didn't because I knew I needed time and couldn't be pushed, but he/she may be able to help.

HildaW Thu 25-Jun-15 19:03:34

You would be better off posting this OP in the Health section.

Jomarie Thu 25-Jun-15 22:56:52

I think you are already on the road to recovery - you went to join a choir and felt OK. I am assuming you felt panicky but didn't need emergency treatment? If that is the case and you managed your panic then you have already proved that you can survive going out and if you repeat this to yourself (and you love singing) then you can continue to push yourself forward (gently) just don't overdo it and congratulate yourself each time you come back from the choir - ie give yourself a treat - a whole bar of chocolate or a glass of something nice for example. Keep it up smile One day at a time springs to mind.