Seeing doctor about my binge eating

To call me Frocks smacks of playground ganging up and bullying.

If this is what Gransnet has become, you are all welcome to it.

I think this post should come to a rational conclusion with agreement to disagree. No more slagging off.

I would just like to add that all addictions are difficult to deal with and can be deep seated and secret. To overcome them takes being in the right frame of mind and support from others.

Some of us are prone to various addictions...alcohol, food, gambling , smoking, cleaning. It is a brave thing to face up to and good luck in the attempts ahead to us all.

Surely everyone has a different body. I wear next jeans size 12 but have to buy a 14 from M&S. Why would I lie about it??? This just seems silly as I have already admitted to something far worse than my dress size. My dress size isn't even the issue here. Next people will be scolding for having gone to Slimming World and not Weight Watchers!

How can you make such comments then??

If you are 5' 6" and weigh nearly 13 stones, you are lucky to get into a size 12-14, I am that height and weight and struggle to get into a size 18.
I am not stupid mumof, I have medical training too.

This has really set me thinking. I used to binge eat sweet stuff from time to time and still do very occasionally but not so much. I still can't have chocolate and such like in the house without my partner hiding it which I know is pathetic but is my way of not scoffing the lot all at once. I could be very self controlled for a long time - I was a brilliant Weightwatcher!- and then it was like a dam bursting and I just had to eat. Apart from the odd binge - like when I've been making biscuits with the nipper - I find the urge to binge eat has largely gone. (And before anyone says I shouldn't be making biscuits, they are reasonably healthy, low sugar ones!) I'm sorry if I'm rambling but I'm trying to think why things have changed and have come to the conclusion that my lifestyle change is what's done it. I've always been a busy person, but now I'm busy with all the things I enjoy. I also live in a country where the point of going out to eat or drink is largely the chat and the food and drink, although enjoyed is secondary. A different relationship with food. Do seek help and see if talking things through with a professional can help you make some lifestyle changes which will remove the desire to overeat. It has to come from within rather than be something you resist.

I agree with seacliff too. Well done to Antejexix for staying here and not being put off by less than helpful posts.

Jingl didn't call her advice "tough love", Badenkate. I think you'll find that was me

Maggiemaybe you are absolutely right:
but I'm worried things will get out of hand. I have not lost any weight for the last year and feel I'm just wasting my money.

Nicotine is an addiction too, but a lot of people have overcome it (without those patches and gum).
They do it with willpower and sheer determination - perhaps antejexix can do that with the help of the family and the GP who now know and can be supportive.

And there you go again jinglbellfrocks. You're complaining about a post which was very mild compared with the ones you have been contributing to this thread. No, you haven't been 'flamed' (which I had to look up) - it's 'tough love' coming back to you

again

Did I get flamed there?

I don't think I've ever been called Frocks before.

Fair comment Maggie. I didn't notice the particular forum she had posted under.

Bellanonna, the OP posted in the Diet forum, not in Health, and has talked at length about her weight and her Slimming World membership, and wasting her money with said membership. Others have responded to that and been ticked off for it. It's all a bit odd.

I agree with seacliff - we have seen you do this many times frocks, and no matter how you try to justify it with the term 'tough love', it is really hurtful to those on the receiving end. And then to make matters worse, as soon as anyone criticises you, you complain that they are being insulting or rude. It's very sad really.

There are some very different posters appearing on Gransnet. It's beginning to feel a lot like Mumsnet.

That is total rubbish, and bloody insulting!

I don't think the OP has said she has a weight problem. She has an eating disorder which she can't break and it makes her feel bad about herself.

Frocks - you are just enjoying yourself as usual at someone else's expense, without any kindness or thought for their feelings or any empathy.For you it's obviously just a game acting like this, winding people up deliberately, then no doubt going to bed happy with your bit of fun. . We've all seen you do it many times.

It takes a lot of courage to speak out finally about a deep seated mental problem, and people like you, jeering and being sarcastic, can knock that person down again just when they've reached out for some help. Do you never stop and think how hurtful your words can be?

jings can answer for herself, but I can see how she thought the OP had no real problem with eating as OP said she was a 12-14 and 5'6".

For future, let's abandon so-called sizing and give facts, like actual weight.

Post to jingl

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Just weighed myself again, 12 st9 and mainly a14. When I was in my early 20's I was a size 8 but weighed 9 1/2 st. I have no reason to lie about my weight as I have already admitted that I have a problem.

I'm out of here!

Hello jingl. I think you need some attention, so hello.