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Seeing doctor about my binge eating

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Antjexix Wed 27-Apr-16 16:02:35

Today I have finally admitted to myself that I have a problem with binge eating. I spoke to DH and DD about it and have made an appointment with my doctor. I have been going to Slimming World for about 2 yeras now and have lost a stone and a half. I am not overly big( size 12-14) but I'm worried things will get out of hand. I have not lost any weight for the last year and feel I'm just wasting my money. Other people can eat in a normal way,surely I can too?!

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 02-May-16 18:10:47

I just wanted to make that point clear Tegan. Nothing more. I'll be off now.

Tegan Mon 02-May-16 18:06:28

You're all heart jingle. But, in this case I don't think you're actually helping the OP much, especially as you know absolutely nothing about her problem sad. This thread isn't actually about you, y'know....

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 02-May-16 17:35:33

Shysal, actually I would never admit to taking antidepressants. Nothing to "admit" to. Totally the wrong word. Anxiety and depression are not things to feel guilty about.

I have of course, said several times on Gransnet, and on Mumsnet before that, that I find fluoxetine helpful. (Said always to help other people looking for help with these troubles)

Jalima Mon 02-May-16 15:05:43

I do try to buy 'healthier' snacks such as low fat crisps, low calorie biscuits
Willow I don't buy any of that kind of stuff generally - because eating it even if is lower in calories is not helping me get out of the habit of consuming it.

Jalima Mon 02-May-16 15:02:20

I bet none of us who sometimes binge eat thought we had a mental illness, did we?
Very worrying indeed if that is the case.

At least you have recognised that you have a problem Antjexix and hope you can get over it with help.

TriciaF Mon 02-May-16 14:52:50

I had a phase in my early 20s when I used to binge eat, then make myself sick as I was worried about getting fat. I think that's bulimia. I was unhappy at the time (love life gone wrong.)
Antjexix - do you have one particular place and/or time when you do your eating? Sometimes it helps to change those, to break the habit.
It's a maladaptive habit, not necessarily a mental illness.

cazthebookworm Mon 02-May-16 14:31:22

I have a friend who lost a lot of weight through a gastric band hypnosis treatment....she had several sessions and was given a CD afterwards which she listened to regularly, and which kept her weight off. The treatment apparently makes you feel very full and you are only able to eat small portions, she found she felt full very quickly....it really did work. However, she gradually stopped listening to the CD, and over time, put all the weight back on again. It seems you have to listen to the CD regularly to keep the hypnosis"topped up"

Willow500 Sun 01-May-16 18:27:28

'There but for the grace of God' ....... I too consume huge amount so of food and over the years have probably got through a factory full of chocolate bars mostly eaten several at a time and in secret. I had gall stones at 24 and was fully convinced that was due to the amount of sweets I was eating. I don't seem to have that 'switch' which you're supposed to have to tell you you're full and therefore stop eating so don't. My day seems to be one long grazing fest and as I'm sitting in front of a computer all day long only 10 feet from the kitchen its too easy just to keep going. I do try to buy 'healthier' snacks such as low fat crips, low calorie biscuits and find peeling an orange and apple in a bowl takes longer to eat than a banana. I also seem to have to stuff it all in as fast as I can so consequently eat more and then feel guilty. As someone whose life has been dominated by an OCD problem totally unrelated to food I can relate to how difficult it must be to control the binges and hope that you get some help from the doctor. Just one thought - someone told me about a couple she knows who both lost a lot of weight through a hypnotic gastric band - wondering if hypnosis could help with this?

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 01-May-16 16:18:08

Oh dear! At the time of the request for an apology was made, I was in a London theatre waiting to see a show. smile

Don't hold your breath waiting for me to get round to it, will you?

granalogue Sun 01-May-16 16:02:10

Haha, yes remember all of the above, Ayds, Energen rolls, Nimble. No wonder we all feel so effing guilty about eating 'normal' food! Esp now with 'sugar is poison', (and previously 'fat is poison') ... It's a wonder we haven't ALL got eating disorders!

wot Sun 01-May-16 15:10:08

Loft insulation ???!!

merlotgran Sun 01-May-16 14:52:43

My mother used to stock up with 'Energen Rolls' whenever she was dieting.

A bit like eating loft insulation.

Indinana Sun 01-May-16 14:49:15

It was lovely lightly toasted though smile

wot Sun 01-May-16 14:12:27

That Nimble bread had the consistently of nothing ........no wonder "You Could Fly Like a Bird" after eating it ?

annodomini Sun 01-May-16 13:16:57

I remember those - weren't they Ayds? I used to scoff the lot too!

Tegan Sun 01-May-16 13:08:58

They were!

wot Sun 01-May-16 13:07:53

I think those chewy tablets were called "Aids"!!!

Tegan Sun 01-May-16 13:05:08

Does anyone remember those chewy tablets that you were supposed to eat before a meal that would make you eat less? They were really expensive and I used to end up eating most of them in one go. I also remember buying things like a loaf of Nimble bread [remember that one?] and eating the whole loaf. It's as if my whole life has been one huge diet but the minute I break that diet [eg eat a few biscuits or a couple of chocolates from a box] the 'handbreak' has been let off and I just can't stop. It used to happen more if I was upset about something as well. But always late at night.

granjan30 Sun 01-May-16 12:41:06

It's quite a relief to read some of the posts on this thread as I am a secret binge eater. I'm only about a half-stone overweight, and manage my weight through regular exercising - gym, swimming, running and walking. I dread to think what my weight would be without exercise! I binge eat probably 2-3 times per week, always in secret and hide the evidence!! I can comfortably eat my way through a whole pack of biscuits, large bar of chocolate, large bag of crisps etc etc and will continue to eat until I feel over-full. I usually feel relieved when I have eaten everything available and feel sick and full of self-disgust, as I know that I will now stop (for the day). GillT57 - your post above at 21.46.40 could have been written by me. I also know that I need to tackle this issue. I can start a day full of good intentions to eat normally but can't identify the trigger which sends me off-course and heading to the cupboards to find anything to binge on. I'm quite interested in one of the suggestions to try hypnosis and will look into this further.

GillT57 Sat 30-Apr-16 21:59:14

Weight isnt really the issue I think, and I also wonder if SW and WW make the problem worse. Although people undoubtedly lose weight and find support, there is an almost obsessive emphasis on food and eating and I think that if, like me, you have a problem with food, this could be counter productive.

merlotgran Sat 30-Apr-16 21:57:29

I think the difference between alcoholism and binge eating is that binge eaters are unlikely to harm others with their addiction.

I could be wrong of course but whenever somebody is concerned that they may be an alcoholic all kinds of alarm bells ring..... drink driving, absenteeism, domestic abuse to name but a few.

Not quite the same reation for binge eating.

FarNorth Sat 30-Apr-16 21:53:12

Clearly the OP hoped that attending Slimming World would help her to take control of her binge eating as well as of her weight. Unfortunately that didn't happen but the two things are still connected in her mind, hence her posting in the Diet forum.
Some posters are missing the point that weight isn't really the issue.

GillT57 Sat 30-Apr-16 21:46:40

You are not alone in your binge eating disorder, it is surprisingly common although most keep it as a shameful secret. It has nothing to do with being hungry, or even enjoying what I eat. It is like being an alcoholic, I plan my next secret fix, such as buying chocolate when filling up with petrol. I stuff it in when on my own and then feel disgusted with myself. The only way I can attempt some control is by not having anything in the house, even crackers. Last week I bought a four pack of twix when buying petrol and ate all four, in secret, when DH was out of the room at various times that evening. I am overweight though and know that the sugar is poison, and need to tackle it. I have jokingly said that I am semi-bulimic; I binge but dont purge. Good luck with your GP visit, I hope you find understanding and help.

FarNorth Sat 30-Apr-16 21:45:16

How about if the OP had said "sometimes I can't stop myself from binge drinking. It doesn't affect the rest of my life, I do it at home then go to bed, but it worries me that I get this compulsion to drink lots of alcohol and can't stop myself."?
Would she be getting replies saying " What's the problem?" and "Why not just enjoy it?" ?

merlotgran Sat 30-Apr-16 21:28:46

I have just read this thread and couldn't agree more with Jalima

We've had incidences before where an OP asks for advice but actually doesn't want to consider any opinion that might cast a negative take on their situation.

I think the posters who waited until jingl had signed off last night before mounting a united attack were behaving like playground bullies.

mumofmadboys says that most binge eaters are normal weight so those of us who have to watch everything we eat in order to maintain a healthy weight are more likely to take a bit of a tough line.