Huia, you're absolutely right: being in calorie deficit is the only way to lose weight. Nothing necessarily wrong with most ways of achieving that deficit (apart from the blatantly unhealthy, obviously) but they're all just different packaging. I've done most of them, in half a century if dieting! I'm Really Good at losing weight, once I get going, but Really Bad at maintaining.
Two things are currently helping me: I read and listened to Paul McKenna's Virtual Gastric Band book - with Huge scepticism but it seems to have thrown the switch for me - and I watch Sean Casey's mini videos on Facebook and/or Instagram. Some really good recipes an some great common sense. Also the most times I've ever heard the F word in conversation but I can filter that out for the good sense he offers.
A stone in 6 weeks with about 3 more stone to go.
Good luck!
Butterflies, I've never seen this one before
Branston’s pickle, Colman’s mustard and Bisto gravy ..



