Would psychotherapy help?

As wildswan says, can you just not buy the chocolate and other things you binge on? They’re only available because you choose to buy them.

A good (BACP) counsellor may well be able to help. But even that is quite hard work - you may find you feel worse before you feel better. But I do think it is worth trying.

Losing your excess weight will be good for your health - but is not a miracle cure to how you feel about yourself. That takes a bit of investigation with a professional. The two things may well go hand in hand.

In the meantime make sure your fridge and cupboards are full of fresh food. The easiest way not to eat biscuits is to walk past them in the supermarket. If they aren't available in the kitchen you can't eat them. I hope your husband is willing to help with this.

Family difficulties are always with us - counselling may help you to put these into perspective also. Also be aware that it is not cheap - so you have to be prepared for that and to put the work in.

I think Noom is an eating plan that attempts to analyze why their subscribers are overweight and tries to factor those reasons into the individual plan.
It would be interesting to hear how you get on bytheway.

In my view it can never hurt to understand the ‘why’ of things. Some time to unpick underlying issues could help in all sorts of ways. If you seek therapy please work with some who not has experience of clients with low self esteem and comfort eating but also holds an accreditation with a professional body such as BACP. There are too many folk out there calling themselves counsellors who aren’t professionally qualified. Wishing you well.

That sounds very sensible to me. My experience is with my daughter rather than myself. She is definitely a comfort eater. She even had a gastric band a few years ago but that failed - even with a gastric band you can eat a lot of ice-cream if you are miserable!