Face or Figure?

henetha

How about a compromise? Lose a bit of weight, it's good for us, but not too much so that we then look wrinkled or haggard.

This…🤓

I lost lots of weight, involuntarily, and I am now quite wrinkled whi h I hate.

kittylester I bet you are still lovely and when I see you I shall tell you so.

I have thought about this hard, yes I am a bit vain and I am a bit fat so i need to resolve the two things. I have signed up for ore SW from November to lose a bit before Xmas and a January holiday. More to do afterwards to get ready for GD2s wedding in the summer. Thank you for your comments and thoughts. xx

I managed to loose 15 kg over the last 5 years. But now I am maintaining this weight, even though not perfect, I am happy as I am.
If anyone asks, I’ll say I’m the same shape as my grandmothers, and they lived to be 93 and 89 respectively…

Just an observation! I HATE the word ‘diet’. In this day and age, surely ‘eating healthily’ is more appropriate and would still be a path to reaching a healthy weight? ‘Diet’ implies self denial, doing without your favourite foods/drinks and a kind of self imposed, short term kind of suffering! Whereas healthy eating, to me anyway, is a total reset of the way I think about food and eat and is forever. It does include treats and indulgences, of course but as part of a varied approach. I have not ‘dieted’ for over thirty years now and my attempts at eating healthily have meant I have never been overweight.

Would depend on why I was losing weight. If only for vanity, well wrinkles may need to be accepted. If for health reasons, may live a longer better life with wrinkles but the better health would compensate.

Bit of an odd question....I'd put health and happiness over both

BigBertha1, I would recommend eating low carb over Slimming World. You don’t feel hungry on it and it’s easier to sustain. Some people have very good results with it, like this lady:
deliciouslyguiltfree.com/pages/15stone

I’d be most bothered about being a healthy weight, personally.

Put your face first, it's what people look at.
You can compromise as I have. I need to lose a stone, the same stone I've been chasing around the cake shop for years. I've been my target weight and felt wonderful and I've been heavier but it's really finding a spot in the middle where you're prepared to be. You can still enjoy your life and your face will thank you. Set a target that's achievable. Be kind to yourself.

Lovetopaint037

Not overweight but also not too thin. My SIL has had to diet due to diabetes. She has now stopped as she looked so much older. Iwas shocked when I saw her last as she has always looked so attractive but dieting hadn’t done her any favours.

Sorry but maybe saving her own life is the best favour she
has done. Being overweight leads to health problems due
to mostly too many sugary carbs, its not complicated.

Face first! If you have a nice happy smiley face, no-one will look any further!

Keep your lovely face xx

I have a couple of medical conditions which affect my weight and am around a size 14-16. I still have most of my natural hair colour and a round face and people tell me l look younger than my age. Certainly, I don't have wrinkles. On the other hand, I have known two ladies who were, if anything, underweight and they both looked a lot older than they really were. One had a face covered in deep wrinkles. The other, in spite of being terrified of putting on weight, almost treating it as if it were a crime, has had a number of serious health issues. I think it is a matter of compromise, to be honest. If you are extremely overweight, as Whiff was - and congratulations on your tremendous achievemen, Whiff, then of course you must lose weight. However, if you are heavier than you would like to be (me) but not too much so, it is not as much of a problem.

Not so much figure, more for health then I’d rather be lighter
Just lost two and a half stone, I’m feeling much fitter and told look much younger, definitely feeling better at size 14 then size 18 at 5ft 4 which still isn’t small by any means, but I’m happy haven’t noticed anything extra wrinkly, perhaps my arms ? but will try to stick when at a 12
And our dr is also very pleased with myself and partner, we did it together ( mainly for his pre operation) which was successful
Hope this helps your friend

I can see "Your friends" point of view. Quite a few people I know that have lost weight in later years do get scrawny looking. I think it depends on how much weight "they" want to lose and why. If its health reasons then they should definitely try. Maybe stop when they start to look too thin or when they notice a definite change in their face and neck. I definitely need to lose weight due to my knee problems and also for other health reasons. I just have a lack of will power unfortunately. I know what I should do as I have done it at least twice before I just don't seem to be able to do it. I'm not at my heaviest ever again yet thank goodness but if I'm not careful I will be.

Wrinkles over weight

As far as I know the few lines on my face have no bearing on my BP, organ function, or loading on my joints. So keeping my weight well within my BMI is my priority, which I do.

Casdon

I’d go for figure, because I’d rather be healthy than overweight even if it meant a few more wrinkles.

Again that is all relative. I have always been classed as obese, but up until 3 years ago, when I developed a few medical problems, I cycled an average of 100 hilly miles a week, walked 20k steps a day at work, hill walked, walked the dog etc and do not have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes or any other such issues, so obese or not I considered my body healthy.
I am now the same weight but due to a few medical conditions, can barely walk to the bathroom some days, don't cycle, lost my job, struggle to walk a half mile with the dog but I am classed as medically malnourished ( and no my problems are not caused by obesity) ......would rather go back 3 years and be active again.

I’d take weight loss over face every time. If only because it makes you feel better…and you’re healthier.

Sometimes I think people are born and blessed with really good genes and will look youthful their whole lives regardless of weight.

You can also inherit the “aged before your time” look where you actually look 10-15 older than your age. I have two friends who look exactly like their mothers looked and my friends are 12 and 15 younger than I am.
Regardless of weight.
USA Gundy

I think it’s a myth and an excuse not to lose weight, the exception being losing weight due to ill health which will take a toll on your face.

I’m a great believer in portion control - it’s hard at first but you soon become accustomed to eating less. Don’t deprive yourself ( life is too short ) eat a little of everything you enjoy - we all know what’s healthy and the stuff that isn’t.

I have recently gone from being 9st 8lbs to 8st 6lbs due to ill health. My face has definitely become more wrinkled and I feel that I look older. My daughter tells me I look like a stick! One or two people have complimented me on the weight lost and said I look great. I suppose it’s just a matter of opinion.

I think I'd like to stay as I am. True, I carry a few extra pounds and my face will never get any better - but I hope people judge me on my actions and how I treat people, rather than my appearance.

I probably fall between two stools and have not achieved perfection in either.