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Is there a case (again) for single sex schools?

(33 Posts)
kittylester Mon 20-Jan-20 12:39:17

Ours went to singles sex senior schools after being at mixed juniors. All three schools are on the same campus so there was quite a lot of mixing - especially in the Sixth form.

Mommawolf Mon 20-Jan-20 11:17:04

My DD who has just arrived has said she believes that we made the right decision to send them to single sex schools as it gave them a boy free space without competition for male attention,with two brothers she and her sister were confident with boys.

Mommawolf Mon 20-Jan-20 11:02:12

My children all attended single sex schools, we felt the girls had a better chance that way. I have spoken to many mums who have found the important exam years are oftan clouded by the advent of boyfriends and competition between girls to be the perfect image. I am of an age where we had separate entrance doors from the playground in the village school separated cloakrooms and tables at lunch. Now I feel old!

Americanpie Mon 20-Jan-20 10:51:59

I attended an all girls school and loved it. We mixed with the boys travelling to and from school as we knew them from primary school and I enjoyed it. My niece has also chosen to send her daughter to an all girls school and she is doing really well, as are all of her many girl friends. Perhaps where you are in the UK makes a difference for example leafy Cheshire or the highlands of Scotland versus inner cities. I certainly believe that everyone should be safe whilst at school. It can't help with your education if you feel you have to watch your back. However I might also add that my own school insisted on having long skirts that hit the back of your knees when kneeling and that my great niece has to wear a similar length kilt. When I see some uniform " skirts" I do a double take. Old fashioned maybe but I feel its the right way to dress.

ladymuck Mon 20-Jan-20 10:37:18

I have moved around a lot so I attended both a girls school and a mixed school.
I definitely felt more comfortable and did better at the girls school.

Sara65 Mon 20-Jan-20 10:34:44

One of our daughters spent a year in a single sex school, she mixed with boys through her sport, so we weren’t worried about her not being able to relate to boys.

We chose the school with great care, I thought it was perfect, and felt quite envious of her, their academic standards were very high, and they had a huge range of extra curricular activities.

She hated it, I could see from the first day she wasn’t going to like it, certainly not the schools fault, but she just never seemed to fit.

Moved her to a co educational prep school the next year, and she loved it from day one.

This isn’t a criticism of single sex schools, but I guess they don’t suit everyone.

Humbertbear Mon 20-Jan-20 10:07:30

My own children went to single sex schools (one of each) and grew up to be successful, happy, well adjusted individuals. My daughter was adamant that she would only go to a girls school because ‘boys messed about’. We chose a boys school for our son as we thought he needed a bit more discipline and fewer distractions. They both had mixed gender friendship groups. My GC are all at single sex schools. When my GS asked how he would meet girls I pointed out that there was a girls’ school next door to his and he has two sisters.
I was at a single sex girls’ school and we were not supposed to talk to the boys from the local grammar school when we were in uniform! I achieved high grades in my exams, went onto have an academic career, and always had a boyfriend. It’s interesting that most private schools (at least in my area) are single sex. Perhaps they know a thing or two?

MawB Mon 20-Jan-20 09:57:32

I have just read this

MORE than a third of girls say they have been sexually harassed at school, a charity has found, compared with just 6 per cent of their male classmates.
Two thirds of girls have been targeted in public, with thousands complaining of feeling unsafe and being held back by sexism in schools.
More than half of these faced sexual harassment while dressed in their school uniform, the survey by Plan International UK found

I know all the “old”arguments against single sex schools back in the day when a girl’s education was undervalued, often massively inferior to that of her brothers and the “rugger bugger” nature of (many) boys’ schools , especially the independents, was frankly shameful.
I also believe that children need to grow up in a mixed and mutually tolerant society which led in the past to the theory that girls did better at girls’ schools and boys did better in mixed schools.
In over 20 years’ teaching in secondary education, only the first of those in a girls’ school, I have seen the balance in mixed schools change from boys dominating the classroom dynamic especially the maths and the sciences, to a situation where girls dominated the top grades in the GCSE league tables because they were more successful in coursework.
But I also saw my own daughters flourish in a single sex school, in a town 10 miles away with 2 boys’ and 2 girls’ schools, where they had strong female role models in science and maths, not just arts subjects and where their confidence was never dented by the boys. They mixed, all right, ( plenty grin ) on the bus to and from school, in drama productions and in terrifying inter-school hockey and lacrosse matches (the girls were lethal ) and from what I have seen were totally at ease in all social situations including the pub on Saturday nights.
There was a lot that was good and as a teacher in a variety of mixed secondaries I think the girls’ school prepared them better as confident young women.
If mixed education was designed to help our children grow into tolerant and self-confident young adults, does this observation quoted suggest it might have failed?