This is a bit of a rant, get it of my chest kind of post but also to see if any of you might have some views to help understand somebody else's point of view.
I'm very excited at the age of 50 to have been offered a place to study for a degree at a local university. This is something for varied reasons I didn't think I was able to do and didn't realise how much I wanted to do until now
Recently after 22 years with the same company in a management position with all the perks. I took voluntary redundancy as wanted to explore other avenues.
I secured a new job in a school after taking a bit of time out which must of made DH think I had moved on and was happy.
I didn't feel fully settled and had been thinking I need to do something else/different and once I hit on the idea of going to university, I knew that was the next step for me.
I mentioned in passing to DH that I was going to give up work and study full time. He just glared at me and looked as though had told him his beloved football team had been relegated by 2 divisions for no reason (angry and confused). No questions or conversation. I went ahead with my application and have been offered a place on my 1st choice course. Again tried talking to DH. He again had nothing to say. After a bit of probing he said that I hadn't consulted him. If I can afford it and I'm going to do what I want anyway.
I don't understand why he is response feels negative. No questions about why, where or what. He knows me and knows I would do research and have a back up plan if the things don't work out but he hasn't asked about any of this.
I'm not going to let this put me off. I am so proud and excited to have this opportunity 😁. I could bust and I just want to share this with all my family and friends but DH is giving me a degree downer.
Help me understand from his point of view xx
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