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Nero-divergent teenage grandson being bullied

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Aveline Thu 14-Jul-22 21:40:27

That's um not I'm

Aveline Thu 14-Jul-22 21:39:59

I'm what's a 'rack shack'?

MaggieT7 Thu 14-Jul-22 21:32:45

It is both physical & emotional and my daughter and son-in-law are going to school again on Monday. He is called all sorts of names because he is academically clever but lacks some social skills, they take his school equipment, bump into him on purpose, cut in the lunch line and I think at one point up ended his lunch tray. What the school seems to be doing is monitoring the perpetrators and registering the incidents but not registering how many times it is happening to my GS. It has got to the stage now that my daughter will start reporting it as an assault to the police. They are taking some of it seriously for example when his PE shorts were pulled down the class was informed it was sexual assault but they don't seem to be consistent in dealing with it. My daughter witnessed on Monday a group of 6 boys surrounding my GS and his friend and one went down his rack shack and took his phone. My daughter called out and the phone was returned. She went into the office to report it and it was investigated and put down to high jinx and not they are not seeing the pattern, hence her visit on Monday she is not happy with how they are handling it. Sometimes it affects him and for others, it doesn't. It kills me. The reason he went to the school in the first place was due to its pastoral care!

Smileless2012 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:53:04

Thanks Maggie. Bless him, the school should be doing something about this. All schools have a policy for dealing with bullying, ask to see theirs.

Deedaa Thu 14-Jul-22 20:46:14

He really should be getting some support from the school. My daughter went to see several of our local secondary schools before she found one that seemed to have the best facilities for autistic children and so far things have gone pretty well.

icanhandthemback Thu 14-Jul-22 20:45:18

In what way is he being bullied? Is it physical or verbal? How badly is it affecting him?
Sadly, I think a lot of school struggle to stay on top of bullying but I think the sort of bullying can make a difference as to the actions parents can take.

MaggieT7 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:41:52

This better explains

The term "neurodivergent" refers to the idea that differences in the human brain are natural and normal and, in many cases, can lead to meaningful and positive insights and abilities. People are described as neurodiverse when their thought patterns, behaviors, or learning styles fall outside of what is considered "normal," or neurotypical.

MaggieT7 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:38:08

He is on the autistic spectrum and different from the other kids his age.

Smileless2012 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:36:11

I'm so sorry that your GS is being bullied Maggie. Please forgive my ignorance but could you explain what Nero-divergent means?

MaggieT7 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:35:21

He is in year 7.

MaggieT7 Thu 14-Jul-22 20:34:24

I am at my wit's end on how to support my Grandson who is being bullied at school. His parents have raised this several times at the school but it continues. He is Nero-divergent and such a loving soul. Does anyone have ideas of how I can support him as I just want to go and punch the lights out of the kids involved!!