I completely understand the motivation of why parents remove a child from a school, if the child is deeply unhappy and particularly if they are being bullied and the school in question can't seem to sort the problem out. I empathise with "I'll do anything to make this child of mine happier, move heaven and earth, financial sacrifices if necessary," if that's an option. I think to want to help your child in such a scenario is a very innate reaction, it kind of goes with the territory of being a parent I guess. I know, as probably most of us do, people who have moved their child/ren into the private sector for those very justifiable reasons.
Having said that, I think what I find irksome and this is very much in the real world as opposed to anything that has been said on GN, the complacency in which, and I'm sure they are a minority, those who make either disparaging comments to others who unlike them are putting their children through the state system or simply for whatever reason make it clear that it's absolutely not something they could ever contemplate and convey that in a bare faced way, I think it's thoughtless at best and damn rude at worst.
I mentioned up thread a person I know who staggered the peasants he found himself with when he uttered these immortal words "if you send your children to a state school they'll be lucky to come out of it writing their own name" This was around the time our children were going into school with a group of us who were sending their children into the state system, followed by a smug "we want to do the best for our child" Oh yeah right M'lud no one who sends their child into the state system could possibly have those aspirations, all they want is for their kids to merely survive the experience and if they're lucky take up some lowly servile role 
He's not typical I imagine, a crass individual who is married to a friend of mine, later on she was to declare "he's upset all our friends, some we hardly see anymore" oh there's a surprise thought I! Their child did indeed go into the private sector. This friend lives pretty near our mutual home town where we went to school. I was utterly nonplussed when she told me a mother at her child's private school was a governor at the state junior school we both went to. This woman who sounded an utter raving snob in her condemnation of it, in her words "full of rough badly behaved children" anyway friend let her run off at the mouth for about five minutes slagging off our pretty standard catholic junior school, before quietly adding "yeah I went there". Our school, as indeed my children's school always was a mix of children from various backgrounds, thank God! I do wonder what her motivation was in becoming governor of a school she wouldn't send her own child/ren to as in not so many words she deemed it fit only for the hoi polloi
My husband through his work had many public school educated clients, most of them lovely people, although there were always those who live in such a rarefied atmosphere they had no experience of a life outside their own little world. He once told me he a meeting with such a client to chew over his alarming financial state of affairs struggling with an incredibly large money pit of a house complete with paddocks, horses, school fees for 4 children a life style that was slowly bankrupting him. Wanting the impossible to reduce outgoings without making any significant changes to lifestyle, among other things, they discussed moving to a smaller property, then my husband mooted "have you thought about putting your children into the state system" Client's reaction was to go slack jawed with a "b b b b but no one in the family has ever been to a state school" Clearly just about the most alarming proposition he could contemplate so ingrained in the "I can't be the one to break the status quo", I think he responded to husband "would you?" my other half "that's where they are" client "good grief". Husband is a grammar school boy so he was never part of that way of life, possibly client mistakenly thought he was. I think I had that recollection in mind when I read the OP 
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