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Caleo Mon 27-Oct-25 09:43:07

Many people come to Gransnet for emotional support on occasions of personal crises.

Those requests should be honoured, and given priority before advice.
However the onus is on the OP to make it clear whether she wants emotional support or alternatively advice to be her priority.

This is why Gransnet needs a section devoted to practical emotional support .

Maremia Mon 27-Oct-25 09:45:49

Why not? With the aims clearly stated.

Tizliz Mon 27-Oct-25 09:46:53

Good idea. Sometimes you just need to vent and not look for advice, can make you feel much better.

Retread Mon 27-Oct-25 13:47:51

As long as people are happy to vent publicly - or ask for advice on a public forum, which is what this is.

Personally, I'd be cautious.

Blossoming Mon 27-Oct-25 14:12:39

Wouldn’t this be better under Site Stuff rather than Education?

butterandjam Mon 27-Oct-25 14:40:08

That depends what you think "emotional support " is. I don't think Real emotional support can be found on a screen.

If a few lines of honeyed sympathy from an unseen stranger amounted to any meaningful "emotional support", there would be no need for trained counsellors and psychologists. That work could all be done by AI, totally impersonal. AI would resolve all the emotional needs of lonely sad depressed people. Free at no cost. Saving the state millions in medications and the social fallout from personal crises IRL.

Smileless2012 Mon 27-Oct-25 14:48:28

Real emotional support can and has been found on GN when friendships have developed. It can be obvious from the content of the OP if support or advice is needed and the two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive.

petra Mon 27-Oct-25 15:05:01

butterandjam

That depends what you think "emotional support " is. I don't think Real emotional support can be found on a screen.

If a few lines of honeyed sympathy from an unseen stranger amounted to any meaningful "emotional support", there would be no need for trained counsellors and psychologists. That work could all be done by AI, totally impersonal. AI would resolve all the emotional needs of lonely sad depressed people. Free at no cost. Saving the state millions in medications and the social fallout from personal crises IRL.

that work could be done by AI
It already is. There are a lot of people with mental health problems talking to ChatBots and very happy with the outcome.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002k3hk

Caleo Thu 30-Oct-25 16:10:27

petra

butterandjam

That depends what you think "emotional support " is. I don't think Real emotional support can be found on a screen.

If a few lines of honeyed sympathy from an unseen stranger amounted to any meaningful "emotional support", there would be no need for trained counsellors and psychologists. That work could all be done by AI, totally impersonal. AI would resolve all the emotional needs of lonely sad depressed people. Free at no cost. Saving the state millions in medications and the social fallout from personal crises IRL.

that work could be done by AI
It already is. There are a lot of people with mental health problems talking to ChatBots and very happy with the outcome.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002k3hk

I know, Petra.
And Grans ,despite being faceless online people ,are nevertheless people and by and large are people with a lot of lived experience under their belts.

TaraBylba Mon 23-Feb-26 16:48:52

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Astitchintime Mon 23-Feb-26 16:55:44

But once that support is offered there’s always the risk of another comment that disagrees or contradicts and the thread takes a turn from support towards debate……..just saying. Human nature I guess.

valdavi Mon 23-Feb-26 17:07:07

I think it's a good idea to have a specific forum.

Family & friends can give hugs & company but there's something about venting to people you don't know, where you can say what you're feeling at that moment without fear of it coming back to bite you later, where there aren't pre-existing expectations & dynamics to navigate. & replies on here are usually very empathetic & validating when someone's obviously worked-up.
Dedicated forum might help all posters to keep it 100% constructive for the first page of comments, rather than someone being triggered by something in the OP & coming back with some scathing remark.

AGAA4 Mon 23-Feb-26 17:11:58

I have reported TaraBylba

Fallingstar Mon 23-Feb-26 17:12:47

Oh I agree with this.
Sometimes I just want a ‘I know what you are saying’ or ‘I can’t imagine what you are going through but just want to send hugs’.
As a full time carer for my DH there is a forum that gives good advice but sometimes I just want to say ‘this is really hard and I just want to cry’.