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*SUPPORT* for all who are living with estrangement

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Namsnanny Mon 30-Sept-19 23:11:33

Hope I'm not posting out of turn, but I noticed the other thread had reached 1000!

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Mar-20 14:09:02

Surely that wont happen Rhinestone!! He can't put people's lives at risk for economic reasons.

I haven't heard of anyone doing that but I can see how it my give additional peace of mind.

I'm glad you enjoyed your walk, fresh air is good for the body and the mind. Things have calmed down here with regard to food shopping; has it improved there?

Rhinestone Fri 27-Mar-20 12:54:19

Good morning - Went for a two mile walk yesterday and felt great after. I think I’m seeing more of my neighbors now as everyone is feeling shut in.
Thank goodness for our state governor . She’s doing more than our president. He wants everything to be open by Easter.
I’m reading where people are stripping down and washing their clothes and themselves after shopping. Is that true?

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Mar-20 11:22:41

Feeling very relieved as we got everything I was hoping in Aldi, even toilet rolls!! We had to queue outside 2 metres apart and it was one in one out which worked very well.

On man did try to push inangrybut was soon sent on his way to the back of the queuegrin. It does look as if the shopping situation has calmed down significantly and I wanted you all to know in case any of you are worried.

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Mar-20 09:06:04

Morning dear friends, hope you're all safe and well.

We're heading out shortly to get some shopping. No shopping list as we'll get what we can. Mr. S. was talking to a lady when he took the dogs out this morning, at a safe distance of course, and she said our local Aldi is better organised so hopefully we'll get what we need, even if it isn't our first choice.

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 22:53:23

Namsnannysmile

Namsnanny Thu 26-Mar-20 22:13:52

Yes us too Smileless!! We are surrounded by farms, so quite distant from others, so I didn't think any one would be audible. But some people were banging saucepans so they could be heard smile

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 20:04:24

Just been stood outside our front door to clap for all our wonderful NHS workers. Very movingsmile.

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 18:06:23

hugshelpflowers x

hugshelp Thu 26-Mar-20 18:05:04

Yes, this does make things even harder.
Thinking of you all. x

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 13:16:42

We've noticed that bushes we have on our roof terrace have coming into bud Rhinestonesmile.

It sounds as if the difficulties of getting food supplies we're having here are happening where you are.

We're only allowed a 30 minute walk, run or cycle ride a day so Mr. S. and I are going out separately so our dogs get 2 relatively decent walks a day.

He lives in cloud cuckoo land doesn't he. He seems to be more concerned about the American economy than he is American citizensshock.

Rhinestone Thu 26-Mar-20 12:54:44

Yes SmilelessWe would be getting calls from our children and we would be calling them. I guess the thought that we could die is not even enough for them to call. How sad I feel about that. It has been warmer here and our flowers are starting to rise up. My DH and I are having a horrible time getting food. We order groceries for pick up at the store but half of what is ordered is not on the shelves. I guess we can’t be picky about what we eat. Been going out for walks and enjoying watching the birds building nests. Our state is not doing well as the hospitals are not getting the resources they need. Our president wants to open everything back up by Easter without even knowing what our country will be like then. Such a careless man.
Please all stay well. From across the pond...

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 11:44:06

Morning ladies, the sun is shining which helps to lift our spirits. It's a bit chilly here but surprisingly warm in the sun so our dogs have done a little bit of sun bathing this morning.

Our wonderful girls dropped off a fresh loaf and a jar of my favourite coffee this morning. They work at Sainsbury's in the online shopping department. Started work at 3.00am this morning, one back by 9.00am and the other should be home by midday.

Like all those providing essential services they're doing a great job; what would we do without them all.

Smileless2012 Wed 25-Mar-20 19:42:26

How's everyone doing?

I'm sure I'm not alone on realising how this virus makes our estrangements so much harder to deal with. If things were different we'd be 'phoning our EAC to make sure all is well and they'd be 'phoning us.

So, I've decided to virtually 'phone all of my dear friends here on the support thread every day just so you know I'm thinking of you.

Take care and stay safe x

Smileless2012 Sun 22-Mar-20 08:58:48

'Happy Mother's Day' dear friendsflowersit's going to be even harder this year with everything that's going on so I'm thinking of you all.

We're at our holiday lodge, arrived yesterday. There a few here so it wont be hard to keep ourselves to ourselves.

I don' know how I managed it, but managed to get everything we needed to bring, plus Mr. S. and two dogs into my little Fiat 500. It was a relief as I thought I'd need to make two trips.

That must have been hard Rhinestonesad. A few months ago I was looking for some paper work and found a photo of ES taken when he was at primary school. Totally unexpected as all photo's are kept together.

Like you, if I came across old cards, pictures and letters I don't think I could have resisted having a read.

Your mum's amazingsmile.

Mr. S. is doing really well and in another 3 weeks will be able to drive and hopefully at least that part of our lives will be back to normal.

Take care everyone and stay safe x

Rhinestone Sat 21-Mar-20 14:14:58

smilelessThank you for inquiring how I am doing. We are okay but trying to stay away from everyone. Mom is 91 and doing okay and still driving would you believe.
Hubby and I are still married despite the closeness. I have been cleaning out our “ bonus” room but am having trouble because I keep finding old cards and letters from long ago. Of course I have to read everything.
What is heart breaking are all the letters from camp from my ES along with pictures and Mother’s Day and birthday cards from when he was young. I read these and say to myself “ What happened? “ He was so loving and cheerful and sweet. It was a mixed blessing finding those.
Hope Mr.S is doing well .
PF I am sending you hugs from across the pond. It is a terrible time for you I know.

Smileless2012 Sat 21-Mar-20 09:19:11

Dear PF I'm so very sorry that the prognosis for your DH isn't more reassuring.

It's wonderful that you both got to see your D and GD's before the corona virus outbreak worsened, and lovely that your DH so quickly formed a special bond with his GD.

Mr. S. is doing really well and we're thankful he's had his surgery, as no doubt it would have been cancelled. With o much to deal with, it's very kind of you to ask after himsmile.

I'm keeping you, your DH and family in my thoughts and prayersflowers.

PetitFromage Sat 21-Mar-20 08:56:27

Smileless, I have just popped back to this thread briefly and have seen your kind enquiry.

The short answer is that DH's cancer is inoperable and incurable. He is undergoing chemo which has a 30% chance of arresting things, but the treatment is being rationed, so it is vitally important to remain in isolation or the treatment will. be refused.

We visited DD1, SIL and the DGDs a couple of weeks ago which, with hindsight, was the last opportunity. It went as well as it could have done, in the circumstances, although the first day was rather awkward. DH was pleased that we had been and that he had met the DGDs - the eldest one is the image of him and they seemed to form a special bond.

Sorry that this post is all about me, but I haven't read into the previous posts. I just want to wish you all well and I hope Mr S is now on the mend!

What I will say is that present circumstances put everything else in perspective. DD1 is very concerned about DH and is in touch every day. I know that I have to let go of the past and this I am trying to do. I think we all know, in our maturer years, that time is finite. Many younger people know this too so I am not intending to be patronising but, as we get nearer to our Maker, our focus becomes sharper.

We should just try to be kind and to enjoy every day. There is no point in worrying about the things which we cannot change. flowers

Smileless2012 Fri 20-Mar-20 22:23:23

That's great news hugshelp you must be very relievedsmile.

Thanks Namsnanny can you believe him though, forgetting to tell us that his job and income was safe for another year, the very thing that worried us the most!!

Welcome Lavazza1st you're very welcome heresmile I don't know why, but I find it really difficult getting your name rightblush. If you don't mind I might just call you L

Hope everyone's doing OK. What with CV and of course one of the worse days of the year coming up on Sunday; yes Mother's Day.

Hope you and your DH are OK PF.

How are you Rhinestone? So far away in America but always close to our hearts. Our friend in LV sent pics of 'the strip' all closed down and a lot of the shops boarded up. It looks like a ghost town, all be it a rather glamorous one.

Stay safe everyoneflowersx

hugshelp Fri 20-Mar-20 21:41:54

Thank you nansnanny xx

Lavazza1st Fri 20-Mar-20 17:23:12

Just found this thread and am following it...

Namsnanny Fri 20-Mar-20 17:21:37

Nice to hear your good news hugshelp and Smileless!!

hugshelp Fri 20-Mar-20 16:42:19

Great to hear all is good with your DS smiless
DD tells me ES got home and is working from home now so that's a weight off.

Smileless2012 Fri 20-Mar-20 08:46:19

Woke up this morning to a message from DS "Sorry guys, forgot to tell you my contract has been extended for another year".

Great news and a huge relief so if the schools in Aus. get closed he'll still get paid.

Namsnanny Fri 20-Mar-20 01:08:31

We had that one thrown at us too Smileless grin I said I may look 105y but you know my birthday!

Dawn … I'm not sure I really understand your question, so I'm deferring answering until I've thought more about it!

Smileless2012 Thu 19-Mar-20 22:27:02

He messaged us today Namsnannysmile. No information as such but said he's fine and hoped we're OK "seeing as you're both in the vulnerable age bracket" cheeky bugger; we're not old enough although there are times when we both feel we aregrin.

No I don't feel the need to make contact Dawn but I can understand anyone who might. TBH I can't think of anything that would now.

Stay safe everyoneflowers.

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