My sister, 71, is a hoarder and compulsive spender who always took more than her share, to the point of stealing from me and our late mother. I've tried to care for her anyway, visiting during extended illness, sending holiday gifts (no reciprocation). Her kids won't care for her, one completely estranged. Her marriage is failing and she's nearly broke. I'm obviously her "back-up plan," but her refusal to own up to past wrongs has ended it. I wish her luck finding another man (her hope) at age 71, with long suffering husband still in residence.