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Starblaze Mon 25-Nov-19 22:22:20

A few I still need to work on a bit more here but I remember being this person and how unhappy I was.

www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/tech-support/201811/12-wrong-assumptions-unloved-daughter-makes-about-life?fbclid=IwAR2_mPcSuRMrJAtTuVEb8iWrHaCzJccxP_B0UQVAep-UMGOq1VXenp-nz8Y

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:36:45

No bullying going on here, right?

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:36:15

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Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:31:43

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Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 22:29:56

Policing of thought that should say

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 22:29:02

Gransnet is becoming a bit of an abusive parent with all the policing of though and clear favouritism going on.

Sorry gransnet but that's really how I feel

Also pretty clear on other threads right now

The guidelines haven't changed right?

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:20:35

Chewbacca

If you're seeing hypocrisy it's probably because you're standing in front of a mirror.

This one is apparently fine too!

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:18:20

This is hilarious! Just waiting to see what comment is going to be deleted next...

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 22:15:09

Smileless2012

Well we can't like or get on with everyone can we Motherofdragonssmile

Yet this is fine apparently lol

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:10:28

I wonder how many more of my comments you can get deleted tonight!

So, to be clear, I am not allowed to:

• post about the behaviour of other posters.
• reiterate insults that have been made towards me.
• describe my mother’s behaviour because some posters might see that as a personal attack.

Is there anything I am permitted to post about?

Insanity!

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 22:06:03

the insanity We know as truth

Yes!

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 21:51:58

Before it gets said I am quite aware that every thread is open to anyone but it's morally bankrupt which should be taken into consideration.

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 21:49:06

It's never been on track NatashaGransnet. Estranged parents have been given free rein to come and start trouble but we are in the wrong on a thread that was supposed to support us.

NatashaGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 09-Jul-20 21:42:55

We're just popping onto this thread to remind everyone to please be civil. We do understand that this is an emotive topic and that not everyone will see eye to eye, but a lot of these comments are personal, which isn't helping the discussion. Please do remember that often users come to the estrangement threads for support. flowers

It'd be great to get the thread back on track. smile

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 20:52:41

Maybe some people are just much more vulnerable and unhappy than they appear

HolyHannah Thu 09-Jul-20 20:50:05

MoD -- The thread title is apt. A "helpful resource" is each other and the insanity We know as truth... And I'm not surprised at all...

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 20:48:38

If I listed the number of times some users had hurled insults (likely meant to gain a negative response) and when I finally say, "Hey, can't you look after YOU like I do?"

Me still the bad guy...

It sounds like you have it figured out HolyHannah.

I am in no doubt that the only reason my posts are being reported is to elicit a negative response.

I don’t understand why those who see themselves as “super adults” would wish to play games like this with us “lesser adults”. I thought they were above that kind of thing.

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 20:24:13

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Smileless2012 Thu 09-Jul-20 20:08:23

I haven't requested that any of your comments be deleted MOD. I didn't see your previously deleted post, it had already been deleted when I came onto this thread this morning.

HolyHannah Thu 09-Jul-20 19:56:44

I don't know what to say MoD... I guess there is nothing I am allowed to 'say'.

If I listed the number of times some users had hurled insults (likely meant to gain a negative response) and when I finally say, "Hey, can't you look after YOU like I do?"

Me still the bad guy...

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 19:51:00

I can’t actually believe what is happening on this thread!

HolyHannah I read your comment before it was deleted and it did not warrant deletion in any way.

That’s another post of mine deleted because I reiterated that I did not agree with another poster’s positive experience of Smileless.

HolyHannah Thu 09-Jul-20 19:12:24

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Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 17:48:33

Am I able to respond to you or are you going to have my comment deleted?

Smileless2012 Thu 09-Jul-20 17:47:14

Well we can't like or get on with everyone can we Motherofdragonssmile

Motherofdragons Thu 09-Jul-20 17:41:40

I know what you mean Starblaze, that’s why I decided not to bother disputing my comment being deleted with Gransnet.

I don’t need the post to be reinstated. I’ve been quite clear about what my comment said - that I didn’t agree Smileless was conciliatory. Summerlove’s comment was in the same vein.

I couldn’t quite believe it this morning when Gransnet notified me that it have been deleted because it was “unkind” and issuing a reminder that the estrangement board is supposed to be mutually supportive...perhaps someone could point me in the direction of that board! Then again, perhaps the rules only apply to me.

Starblaze Thu 09-Jul-20 13:42:06

I'm just not going to bother defending myself any more. It doesn't matter that the people who need me to be the villain in their story see me that way regardless of how I communicate with anyone else or try to explain what I meant. It's just not my problem.

I know who I am and the people who see me for me are definitely worth being here for ?

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