Oh, how my heart aches to hear the painful stories here! Flora, how hurtful to know your half-brother was treated differently. If it's any comfort now, t's not unusual for an abusive parent to aim the abuse at one particular child ("scapegoat"), But I know it must have increased the hurt back then, and I'm so sorry.
Yangste, is there any way you can see your mun w/o your dad being present? I don't see why you should still have to subject yourself to him.
Yennifer, love those responses! So much better than getting into a major row about who remembers correctly or beginning to doubt one's own memory unfairly. I've come across a gaslighter, now and then, in my life, and these replies would have saved a lot of headaches. For someone who has to deal w/ this often/constantly, I imagine it would help to save their sense of sanity and self-worth.
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