I have been estranged from my family for many, many years and reconciliation will never happen. I don't blame them, my parents have issues and it isn't healthy for me to keep in touch and they blame me as its easier for them to deal with.
What I do struggle with though is that I wish I was from a healthy, strong supportive family. People who are there for you if needed, in emergencies. It would make life easier.
I also feel there is a stigma to estrangement and wouldn't tell people in work, although a few people know.
For example, a work colleague needed childcare, her husband was away, so she asked her Mum and sister who both helped. When I was in the situation, I only had paid help.
A friend is going through tough times, and her family provide financial gifts and emotional support.
I'm not jealous, but it's the sense of loneliness it brings up. The recognition that support other people have in tough times is something I've never had and never will as blood is thicker than water.
Yes, you can say I'm strong and independent- but only because I have to be! Ironically, people confide in me and I'm there for others but nobody is there for me.
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