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Domestic Violence from kids to parents

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Toadinthehole Sun 11-Oct-20 16:26:42

Yes, it gets back to old fashioned discipline. I remember a mum at my kids junior school. No idea about discipline. Her two sons were the worst behaved in the school. She just used to laugh, and say it was just cheekiness. We all thought the same. She was only about 5’ tall, and they weren’t far off her height then! Don’t know what happened after that. Hopefully, they turned out fine, but some obviously don’t.

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Smileless2012 Sun 11-Oct-20 16:18:31

I hope it helps anyone here who may need it too Lavazza.

It must be so hard, especially for single mum's, to stand up to their son's when they've become physically taller and stronger.

It's so important to have the right boundaries in place from a very young age, but even then peer influence can result in those boundaries no longer being respected.

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Lavazza1st Sun 11-Oct-20 15:55:35

I am copying and pasting a post I just found on our local Facebook page for police. This is what the man wrote:

"Why aren't we highlighting mother's of domestic abuse at the hands of their sons?.
These mothers of lads need support after failing to set boundaries early on got irretrievably out of hand as I imagine the mums end up victims of domestic abuse from little back chatting tyrants who hold the mum to ransom, so she gives in for an easy life, and he learns that being abusive gets him rewarded.
You should never reward bad behaviour.
It's like the kid that screams and screams til the parent gives in and gets them a packet of sweets.
I do believe we have parents who've given up after being ground down to nothing over time.
It's a thing that goes on under the radar."

I was really surprised this was written by a man and also really surprised that this is being openly discussed. I think it's a good thing to be open about it and remove the shame factor so people can get help. I hope it helps someone here , that's why I posted it.

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